Post # 1
I recently went to my doctor to see if I could switch to ortho tri cyclen lo, because since January of this year, I’ve been dealing with headaches, acne, horrible cramps, sore breasts and most concerning, I’ve been battling with depression. Now, for about two months, I took a break from taking my birth control pill and I felt absolutely fabulous! I hardly had any cramps while on my period, my skin cleared up almost completely and I was happy. I shared this with my doctor and she didn’t help me at all. Just nodded her head and wrote down everything I said so she could add it to my records or whatever.
I hate being on the pill but my fiance and I are not quite where we want to be before becoming parents, so what should I do? I’ve thought of natural family planning and practiced it a little bit for those 2 months I was off of birth control, but it couldn’t have been completely accurate since I had only been off of birth control for a couple months. I’m just stuggling with the decision since everything the pill is supposed to help with only seems to get worse when I’m taking it, but I wouldn’t want to get pregnant without being in a better place financially (although honestly, I would LOVE to be a mom).
Post # 3
Have you looked into something like copper IUDs? I’ve been researching birth controls for after McBebe is born, and they made my possibilities list because they don’t have hormones, they prevent pregnancy by releasing small amounts of copper into your uterus which prevents sperm from getting all up on your egg, and if that happens to occur anyway, it will prevent fertilization from occuring. I’ve not used it, so I can’t speak for side effects or anything.
I know NFP works for a lot of women, but I just don’t trust my body (or myself) enough to practice it correctly. I’d want to use a backup condom, and that’s just no fun.
I would sit down and schedule a meeting with your gyno and specifically ask about hormone-free options.
Post # 4
I also suggest the copper Iud. Thats what sister and I both picked. I also hated the hormones of the bcp. You no longer have to have had a child to get an Iud. Do you know what they call people who use nfp? Parents!
Post # 5
@EastMeetsBarn: Do you know what they call people who use nfp? Parents!
That’s pretty rude… a LOT of peope use NFP and do not get pregnant. I believe you’re confusing actual NFP with the rhythm method…
OP- I also will third the Copper IUD. I have it and I really have liked it. I had it before I got pregnant for 2.5 years. The only issue I had was that the last 6 months or so, my periods got heavier.
I just got it again for a second time after I had my daughter. I love how I feel without being on hormona birthcontrol.
Post # 6
@urchin: I don’t mean to be rude. It’s a joke I’ve heard a few times from those active with contraception related issues. My college roommate called me the birth control queen 🙂 I am not confusing NFP with the rhythm method. Toni Weschler’s book is beyond fabuous, and not just for those seeking to learn about NFP, but even just to learn how your body works. The problem with NFP is that there is sooooo much room for user error. If you have a very regular cycle and are on top of everything, and take your temp at the same time every day, monitor your cervical fluid, cervical position, etc etc, I’m sure it works quite well. But it’s hard to be that precise about it. That why even something much easier like condoms or the pill shows differences between success rates as prescibed, and success rates as actually used (with lower success rates as actually used due to user error). NFP might be great in theory, but is just really easy to mess up. My sister is an RN, and she hates hormones so she was using NFP. And now I have an adorable nephew. She got the copper IUD after. The IUD is great since there is literally no chance you can mess it up.
My period also got heavier on the IUD. Using a divacup rather than tampons or pads made it quite manageable.
Post # 7
@Mrs Sarah McK: IUDs make me nervous. A friend of mine who had an IUD got quite a few infections after putting it in.
Post # 8
@chelseairene0008: They shouldn’t make you nervous. but it also matters what kind of IUD it is. Mirena can have some crazy side effects but if you try something like Paraguard- there are no hormones, so less chance of side effects.
I have Paraguard & haven’t had any problems besides cramps. (My previous bc prevented cramps.)
Post # 9
@chelseairene0008: Consider trying the Nuva Ring. I had all sorts of crazy reactions to birth control pills. But once I was on the Nuva Ring (and I did it continuously so I didn’t have periods) I felt okay. I do feel better off of hormones entirely though!
Post # 10
Another vote for NuvaRing. I was on Ortho tri Cyclen for years, took a break, and when I got back on had all kind of crazy problems. I had to change my gyno as well bc they seemed not to listen. My new one was huge advocate of NuvaRing and Im am glad I switched.
Post # 11
What about the side effects of IUD’s, I know there like 1% but perforating your uterus, etc… Also I read on another board people with the copper IUD had a different smell down south?
I can relate to your BCP dilemma it is so hard to find one that works well without crazy side effects!
What about the implant one, that goes in your arm does anyone have that one?
I have the depo shot, I can’t do it long term since it causes bone loss, but for the time being it OK, no period of nice. I did spot for two weeks randomly, but nothing else. I feel more irritable but the doctor seems to think it’s unrelated- HA HA.
Post # 12
I have Implanon, now called Nexplanon. I LOVE it. I is a small bar (about the size of a match stick) implanted in the underside of one arm. It is a progestion implant that last for 3 years. I don’t get my period anymore because of it but that is not the case with all women. “Within a few days of having it removed the hormones released by the implant will have left the body.”
Check out the Wiki site for more info http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nexplanon
I am happy with it as I am AWFUL with remembering to take the pill daily.
Post # 13
@Mrs Sarah McK: i talked to my doctor about a hormone free iud at my last appointment but she was pretty adamantthat i not get one because i havent had a baby yet. ive raed otherwise on some boards, but i decided that im ok with my current method.
OP, be prepared for your doctor to not want to pursue IUD talks with you if you havent had a baby yet.
@EastMeetsBarn: i got what you meant 🙂 i love the idea of NFP but i wot do it until we are at the point that having a kid wouldnt be the end of the world because i am one of those forgetful, irregular girls
Post # 14
This may be a little off topic at first, but I’m looking for support. I’m basically at war with myself. My fiance and I live in a little one-bedroom apartment, that has been “falling apart” more and more as the days go by. I could never bring a baby into this place, no matter how badly my fiance and I both want to be parents.
So, we’re looking for houses and hoping to get a loan from the USDA but the application will take over a month before we hear anything back from the offices. I want to find a place to settle, but I’m worried we don’t make enough money to pay a mortgage on top of other bills. And as far as finding a better apartment that has at least 2 bedrooms seems nearly impossible without having to couch up 1,000+ dollars to pay security deposit, first and last months rent. Again, I want a place to call our own, where I know we’ll be there for 20 or more years and I can feel comfortable and stable for myself and my family.
I’m rational until I see a baby on TV or hear about another one of my friends finding out that she’s pregnant. This is probably the hardest thing that I’ve had to deal with, but thankfully, my relationship with my fiance has never been better, which makes me want to have a baby with him even more.
At my appointment yesterday, my doctor told me she was going to put me on low estrogen pills. She says with the lower dose, side effects as far as mood swings and irritability shouldn’t be as bad. If this doesn’t work, she said we could try the Mini Pill. Things have been so good with my fiance and I’m worried as soon as I get back on the pill, we’ll stop getting along so well. I’ve been off the pill for a month and I’ve been happier and he’s been happier. But I’ve been having symptoms of an ovarian cyst on my left side. It flares up the most right around the time of ovulation so I’m wondering if maybe I have a follicle cyst or something. It only happens on my left side and I thought you alternate each month, left ovary this month, right ovary next month? This, and the fact that I couldn’t get pregnant knowing this is where I would be bringing my baby home, are the main reasons why I’m giving the low estrogen pills a try. I’m crossing my fingers and hoping I don’t slip back under the depression cloud.