Post # 1
Dear Brides – my wedding is 4 weeks away, and the dresses have come in. There are 5 bridesmaids altogether. We all live miles apart, but the wedding will be in CA where the rest of my family is and so is this bridesmaid. I think she is lucky that she doesn’t have to travel like everyone else. We were in law school together so we go way back. My fiance also likes her and they get along so well.
The problem with this bridesmaid is, she is totally unresponsive of late. She was excited for me at first, then as the months passed on, she became more and more unreliable. I am paying for everything so I haven’t even asked her for a dime – just to be in touch with the rest of us and know what’s going on. She never responds to her emails or voice messages, and when she does, she is busy and will “call me back”. She never does. Today I totally lost it, and told her she was fired. She laughed, said she was in a meeting, and that she would call me right back. Then she said I was joking and I can’t fire her. Well, she never did call back.
I am fuming and just about done “begging” her to be my bridesmaid. She is a size 0 so I have to find someone who can wear her dress. But I feel hurt that she is so unresponsive to my big day. What should I do? A part of me thinks I should just keep her, but her total lack of seriousness has worn my patience thin. Please advise!!!!
Post # 3
umm your wedding is TOO close to for her to be acting this way..seriously. i would call her and leave a vm and let her know that if you dont hear from her in a a day or 2 you will consider her out of the wedding. size 0 can be let out to a size 2 at the most…
just try not to stress and enjoy your day!
Post # 4
If you don’t want her in the wedding party, ask her to step down.
You don’t have to replace her. It is ok to have uneven numbers in the wedding party.
Post # 5
I say leave her out of it… if you don’t want her in it anymore, why keep her? it’s YOUR day… don’t feel bad about it… but of course, talk to your fiance about it…
And don’t worry about the dress… you can just sell it or something… finding someone else to replace her isn’t the best idea in my opinion… your bridesmaid should be someone special to you, not just somebody else to replace another bridesmaid…know what i mean? UNLESS… the person replacing her is someone special to you….
Post # 6
It’s SO frustrating when someone who you ask to stand up with you on your wedding day comes across as if they could care less- believe me. I just had my MOH step down on me last night after months of treating me indifferently and bad behavior at the bachleorette party/constant fighting with another bridesmaid. Our best man is MIA and FIs bach party is supposed to be this weekend- at this point I don’t think he even has his tux rented and the wedding is in 20 days. It sounds like you and I recruited the same people to be in our weddings. I’ll tell you what I tell myself- you are getting married come hell or high water. Don’t let anyone ruin your day. If they want to be there, they will pull thru. The hell with them if they don’t.
Post # 7
Havign the same problem (although I have 3 months left) I’ve come to terms with thefact that she’s basically going to back out at the last minute. I’ve emailed her religiously and she rarely responds, she barely responds to my texts. She still hasn’t bought her dress…that was pretty much my hint that she wasn’t going to be in the wedding
Post # 8
isnt this the same thread as ”shall i fire my bridesmaid’ ?