- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
Hi Bees, this is my first time posting but I’ve been reading this blog for a few weeks now and have got some great ideas:-)
I’m feeling so sad- here is my story:
I have one friend, let’s call her A, who has been one of my best friends since high school, we are still close but hardly see eachother- I can count on two hands how many times I’ve seen her last year and this year. However we text almost everyday. Anyways for the past 2 years, things have not been the same- it’s so hard to meet up with her because she’s always busy.
The week before my engagement I wanted to meet with her, because my fiance and I were going away and i had a suspicion it was going to happen while we were away. But she couldn’t meet up with me.
Then i got engaged.
When I called her to tell her I got engaged, the first time I called she didn’t answer and then when she did she was more concerned about who knew about my engagement before it happened as my fiance didn’t tell her and she had wanted to know beforehand. I could tell she wasn’t happy. Anyways she didn’t speak to me again until the next night when she called and said as “Your maid of honour” i want to organise yr engagement party. I was a bit taken aback because I hadn’t even asked her to be my MOH. (I know we always said it in high school but things change). Anyways I didn’t bring it up again and asked her to be a bridesmaid a few weeks ago and she agreed.
Since then whenever I speak to her she is very off towards me.
Last night I told her I asked someone else to be my Maid of honour, let’s call her B, and now A is ignoring me:-( I feared this would happen and originally thought I should have maybe made A MOH in the first place to avoid this drama and because I really didn’t want to hurt her. My main reason for not choosing her is that she has dropped me on numerous occasions and I just didn’t want to stress in months to come and didn’t want to be dropped close to the wedding.
I chose B as my MOH because I see her almost every week and she honestly just wants the best for me.
I don’t know what to do because I don’t think it’s worth losing a friend over her not being made MOH, but it may be too late:-(
She’s ignoring me at the moment.