(Closed) Please help… Destination Wedding.., Home Reception?

posted 7 years ago in DIY
  • poll: How should we get married?
    One wedding: Christian ceremony abroad, formal reception to follow?; invite all : (0 votes)
    Two weddings: Two ceremonies; two receptions (abroad and NY); invite selected : (3 votes)
    38 %
    One wedding: One ceremony abroad, casual reception to follow; formal NY party; invite all : (5 votes)
    63 %
  • Post # 3
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    928 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @d_tre:Hi there! I’m going the destination wedding route, ours will  be in Hawaii in August. My parents and immediate family are in the Honolulu area and FI’s family is from NJ & CA. We’re going to have a small intimate ceremony in Hawaii with just family and close friends with a dinner to follow (no big reception).

    A couple months down the road (we’re thinking maybe April 2012) we’re going to do a vow renewal/another ceremony with a more elaborate casual reception for friends, family, and colleagues in NJ. It just made more sense for us, and we wanted to keep our destination wedding more like a family vacation where we just happened to get married.

    Figuring out the invites was a little stresful but in the end we decided to send invites to just the people who would be invited to the destintation wedding. Not to make anyone feel excluded mind you, but because we wanted to keep it small and intimate (and budgetwise it made more sense).

    Our bigger at home reception will be a bit larger, but because it will be casual we hope that this will keep the costs down. We’re planning a ‘gourmet’ catered BBQ at an outdoor venue. No formal dinner, just cocktails and an appetizer buffet. Since its not a wedding reception we’ve found that this keeps the cost down significantly. We’re having one of our friends do a small ceremony so that we can re-create the moment for everyone who couldn’t make the one in Hawaii/ Everyone who was invited to the destination ceremony will receive invitations to this as well.

    Good luck to you!

    Post # 4
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    167 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Oh gosh that’s a tough one. You’re FI’s idea sounded like a great compromise, maybe you can start by figuring out your overall budget and see if it’s doable with the elements you really would like to have to make it nice. You have alot of things to consider and it’s so hard to decide when you are in 2 different places.

    My FI lives in the UK and I live in Texas, we agonized over where to get married and how it would work for everyone. In the end, mostly because of paperwork reasons, we decided to get married in Las Vegas and then we’ll have a reception in england with his family and friends that weren’t able to come here. It’s not ideal, only some of my family will be able to come to the wedding too, but it was the best compromise for everything we needed. Plus it will be really fun, which was very important to me!

    good luck!

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