Please help! He puts his family before me. Should i leave?

posted 4 weeks ago in Weddingbee
Post # 16
Member
886 posts
Busy bee

No, you shouldn’t marry this man. What you should do IMO is to start putting together a life plan for yourself. Even with a health condition and other obstacles you can make a good life that doesn’t include a controlling husband who begrudges you basic groceries. Look around for community services that help with assistance or back to work efforts for persons with disabilities. Obviously, I don’t know your particular situation, but you may be able to find part-time work to help you get back on your feet. Good luck, OP.

Post # 17
Member
28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Does the area where you live have any social support systems like a women’s centre? I think dropping in to a place like that would probably be a good start. Speaking to someone local who can make recommendations on connections you need to make to get out and get a fresh start would be helpful. I don’t think you should marry that man for a multitude of reasons.

Post # 18
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1355 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

countrygirl04 :  I am just going to put what I know from indirect personal experience out there for you to take however you want, but I know a few people with in laws like this, their mother in law tells them they should not have kids, not to purchase a new home, she even told them they should not get a dog. 

This couple is completely independant, they pay their own bills and never ask for handouts, so what they do with their money is none of her business. 

I see this situation you are in as being the same, I can tell you, it has not been pleasant for the wife!

Post # 19
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1591 posts
Bumble bee

Do you have a job? If not, go find one. Any job will do, but you need your own way to support yourself, and quickly. Then look for a shared house, or a tiny apartment, or a mobile home – whatever. But get the hell out of there.

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