PLEASE HELP (I don't know where to start)

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The first thing I did is figure out about how much money you can budget for your wedding.  What kind of wedding do you want to have?  Small and intimate, or large, full of friends and family?  Do you want a daytime, afternoon, or evening wedding?

Start researching possible venues! Where do you want your wedding to take place? Do you want a destination wedding, or local?  What time of year/date do you want to plan for? As soon as FI and I went looking at rings, I started “internet” planning our wedding.  You can use Pinterest for wedding ideas, search the net, or look around on the bee!  I had a folder with pictures saved of all the ideas I liked.  Once the proposal came, I already had a list of venues to look at, I had decided on our colors and “feel” of our wedding, and we knew all the different elements we wanted to include.

IMO, a daytime wedding will be less expensive than a evening wedding.  Serving dinner (buffet or plated) will almost always be more expensive than serving a lunch or brunch meal to your guests. Also, if you are planning to have alcohol, chances are you will pay more for that for an evening wedding, than a daytime wedding. 

You can get all sorts of ideas/suggestions/opinions on the Bee…welcome!! 🙂

Post # 4
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@TarynT:  Welcome to the Wedding Bee! Many people come here for help with anything from invitation wording to helping choose the best option for dress ideas. Getting a budget figured out is a good first step, along with figuring out approximately how many people you’re wanting to invite. From there you can determine the look you want, venue location, etc. We’re here to help if you have more questions 🙂

Post # 5
1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@TarynT:  Oh man i was there only a few months ago, and now our wedding is right around the corner! My mom is completely uninvolved and I’m the first of my friends to get hitched, so I feel you!

Honestly, first you and your SO should figure out what kind of wedding you want.  Casual daytime?  Elegant evening? Rustic in a barn? Destination? City hall? Once you figure that out, you can discuss a budget that’s realistic.  Then, the next thing to do is find and book a venue! You can’t really do much without a venue (no timelines, no invites, no booking anything else, and really you need to know the venue to even buy a dress!) After figuring our a venue, you can make a guestlist and then it all just rolls in from there!


CONGRATS!! Try not to freak out 🙂

Post # 6
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Welcome to the Hive! Post any and all questions here. There are lots of old posts with great information too.

Post # 8
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Congrats! As for planning…

IMO, unless someone is paying for your wedding, figuring out an approximate budget is the first thing. How much can you realistically spend on a wedding? It will cost a lot more than you expect. Oftentimes, if you say the word wedding, prices rise dramatically!

Anyway, then figure out what time of year you want to have your wedding and what type of wedding you want (small, large, day, evening, etc). The smaller the wedding, the less expensive it will be (obviously). Also, day weddings are usually less expensive than evening weddings, particularly Saturday evening weddings.

From there, figure out what is important to you and your soon-to-be fiance. Are flowers your number one priority? Is there a venue that you have loved forever? Do you want a really expensive wedding dress? Do you want your city’s most sought after photographer? etc.

Once you figure out these types of questions, you can start planning the specifics.

Post # 9
8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Go to your local book store, like a Barnes & Noble. I had gotten a book as a gift that told you what to do each month of the year of your wedding. 

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