Post # 1
So I have a unusual problem. My wedding ceremony is in July in Rhode Island and I know typically before the wedding I would go to the Town Hall of the city I am getting married in and get a license which the officiate signs. The thing is we already technically got married, my mother doesn’t know and to make things worse my uncle is officiating my wedding ceremony (which I clearly didn’t think through when I asked him). I called the town hall and the woman on the phone told me to just make a Rhode Island marriage license. The problem is I don’t know what it looks like or what information it contains and I highly doubt they will send me a voided out copy :/ This is so important to my mother and to be honest I am regretting doing it early just because if she finds out if will really hurt her. I know this is a long shot but does anyone out there in the blogosphere have a picture of a Rhode Island Marriage license that I can see (obviously block out any personal information). I just need something that looks real that my aunt can sign and “send in” which obviously we wont do.
Post # 3
@beatrix14: I think your best bet is to just come clean to you mother…
Post # 4
Lying takes ten times the amount of effort as telling the truth does.
If you don’t want to come clean, say you signed and sent it in at the courthouse. That’s what we had to do, there was no “signing and sending in” at the wedding because that was already done. My husband and I signed it the week beforehand and all the officiant had to do was plop down his info. No one saw the license at our wedding.
I’d just come clean. It’s easier in the long run.
Post # 5
First off, the lady who told you to fraudulently reproduce a legal document needs to be fired immediately. What she’s advising you to do can potentially get you arrested.
Second, it’s time for you to be a big girl and be honest with your family. Save yourself the potential embarrassment of presenting something that will probably obviously be a fraud because you won’t be able to reproduce paper weight, official seals, etc. If you’re old enough to get married, you’re old enough to tell your family you’ve already done it and are just having a ceremony.
For the record, THIS is what most brides have a problem with when they advise people not to have a “wedding” after you’ve already been married and not tell anyone. What you’re basically trying to do is deceive your whole family and I don’t know how you can sleep with yourself even considering doing what you want to do.
Just be honest. It’s not going to kill you and your family isn’t going to love you any less
I’m not sure when honestly in this world became a bad thing
Post # 6
Hold on. The state in which you married already — was that Rhode island?
If not, I have a feeling the lady meant you should get an actual Rhode island license.
Post # 7
If your uncle is officiating the ceremony he would be the one sending in to the town you got the licence from. That presents a problem not just the witnesses signing it.
Although blushing bee was alittle hash you should come clean