Post # 1
Hi my fellow Bees!
I’ve been reading the board for a while now and saw how kind and supportive you’ve all been to each other therefore I’d like to ask for your help in the way of honest opinions on my dress options. I’m feeling growing pressure to chose asap because I only have 6 months to go and “all the good ones are already gone” but I really can’t decide. Plus I’m already having dress regret no matter which one I’m going to chose because I love both of them.
Honestly I didn’t have a clue about wedding dresses 6 months ago when I started to search the internet for something I wouldn’t hate to wear on the big day. I am quite picky when it comes to dresses, e.g. the first thing I have ordered for the wedding is a saree because I’ve always wanted to wear one and it is the perfect occasion. But the whole family was terrified with the idea of me not having a classic white wedding dress so I have started my search. As a result I have found that I liked Mori Lee dresses the most, I think Madeline Gardner is a genious. Mori Lee 1924 was my absolute dream dress the moment I have laid eyes on it. Thought I could only wear a classic ballgown as it is so elegant and romantic and dreamy you know, and also I’m not very pleased with my figure so a ballgown would hide what needs to be hidden 🙂 But as soon as I have started to try on ballgowns (also Mori Lee 1924 which looked terrible on me) I’ve realized that gosh they are huge!! And also heavy and it is a challenge to even walk through the door in one! 😀 So I have reconsidered and came to the conclusion that noway I’m going to put myself in such uncomfortable situation like I cannot even sit properly because my dress takes 3 seats… We will be having a garden wedding placed mostly in the tent but also quite out in the open, with lots of dancing.. so I’m absolutely positive that I would be much more comfortable wearing a smaller skirt.
Therefore I have almost already chosen this one:
Madeline Gardner 38001
When I first saw the back of the dress on me it was a “wow” moment. It is so stunning and so perfectly like me. Really unique style dress. It has flowers everywhere and I love flowers, also fits into the scenery of a garden and matches the idea of my having flowers in my hair instead of a veil.. Everything seems to work with this one. I feel very comfortable wearing it, moving in it, however naturally I’m not altogether pleased with the way it looks on me. It’s a bit big on me and I have been told that fitting will solve the problem and I’ll have a better figure around the hip and waist but I’m still not so confident that I should wear such a tight dress. (Low self-esteem, quite common thing.)
I’ve been told it would look like this Mori Lee 1856 (which is unfortunatelly no longer in the game because I don’t like the upmost frill of the skirt) when perfectly fitted:
So I have continued to search for one that doesn’t show that much figure when I have been talked into trying on yet another heavy ballgown:
Victoria Jane Graziella
I have instantly fallen in love with it. However I cannot move in it or sit down comfortably or even imagine dancing in it, also doesn’t go with any of my ideas for the hair, the garden wedding or anything else.. but I just love it soooo much how it looks on me.
Therefore I’m completely indecisive rigth now whether to go with my original plan and have the comfortable dress or stir everything up for just a perfect looking one.
My whole family and friends think I should go with a ballgown (because “I look fat in the fitted ones” – thanks mom..) but they won’t be the ones having to go through the whole night uncomfortably. Is it really that hard to wear a big dress or I would get used to it once I’m in my heels and “live in action”? What is your experience? With some dress wearing tips and advices you could really help me a lot!
Post # 3
@thriodien: My vote would be to keep looking. I really love the 3rd one Victoria Jane Graziella on you but you mention its not comfortable……so I say try to find a similar style as the 3rd dress that is comfortable! It really looks the best on you.
Post # 4
@thriodien: #1 is quite unique and stunning on you. Have you tried any of these dresses ‘jacked up’? I think #1 would be breathtaking with a pink peony bouquet. It is super trendy though. I’m not really a fan of the others.
I’d keep looking if you’re not feeling satisfied, or are questioning yourself at all. You don’t want to have dress regret!
Post # 5
I’m not a fan of a dropped waist on you. I think the last one looks great, but if you don’t love it, you should keep looking! Try some A-line, natural waist dresses. They will give a similar shape to the ballgown, but not as poofy and hopefully easier to move in.
Post # 6
You have nothing that needs hidden. If you have issues with your figure… frankly, you need therapy. I mean that not in a mean or snarky way. I do not see one single thing that you should change about your figure, and I seriously mean that. If you think somethign is wrong with you, pleae please please go to therapy, because there is NOTHING I can see in these photos that you should be down on yourself about. NOTHING AT ALL. ZERO. ZIP. NADA. Do not be one of those people who are thin and think they are fat or some other thing they view as negative. DON’T DO IT!
That said… I like the second dress. The one that SHOWS OFF YOUR AMAZING FIGURE.
Post # 7
Oh, you took my breath away in the Victoria dress! Granted, I love ballgowns and will wear one myself – so can’t speak for experience yet on what it’s like to wear one all day – but wow, you’re stunning in that!
Post # 8
@thriodien: Please don’t listen to your family. There is no way on God’s earth that you are fat – in fact your body looks BANGING in those two fitted dresses. In comparison, I feel that the ballgown swallows up your curves – besides, you already said it would be too big for you to move around in easily.