(Closed) Please help me… Frustrated with my mother. :(

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: What should I do?
    Keep the accessories she bought - it's not that big of a deal : (2 votes)
    13 %
    Put my foot down, sell them, and get what I wanted : (14 votes)
    88 %
  • Post # 3
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    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think just have a serious talk with her about buying things for you to wear without even consulting with you. Have you ever, at any time, indicated that you would want to wear a headband?

    Honestly, only you can judge how far you want to push this, but if you really want a particular hairstyle/ornament, then let your mother know that, much as you appreciate her gesture and how excited she is for your wedding, the headband just isn’t your style and you don’t really feel comfortable wearing it.

    Post # 6
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    19 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It’s your day, you should wear exactly what you want! That said, your mom was probably just trying to be nice, and she was AMAZING enough to buy your dress. I think you just have to be really honest with her that you don’t feel your best wearing the pieces that she picked out, and offer to do the work of selling them. If there is a loss, maybe you can offer to pay the difference? Chances are she won’t take you up on it (well I don’t know her maybe she will), but at least you offered. Just remember that weddings are a lot of change for moms too. My mom started acting crazy (making everyone leave my shower early lol; trying to be the center of attention), and she finally just broke down and confessed that it was a big change and she felt like she was losing me to a grown up life.  I think the headband is cute, but You should have what YOU pictured for your day.

    Post # 7
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    78 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Yeah, I agree – do what you feels right for you on your day. But before you sell it off, could you maybe work it into engagement photos, or during some portion of the reception? Like the after party or something, so that way it at least gets used? I know she meant well, it was very sweet that she wanted to help! My mother didn’t even want to come to my wedding dress ventures because we live a bridge, a tunnel and six freeways apart! LOL

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