I have such a dillema, and I need your help DESEPRATELY.
Okay, before I type this, I should let you know that my mother is THE MOST immature human being I’ve ever met. You will soon see why, but please keep in mind that I have done nothing but continuosly been there for her, and kept calm when she would go off the handle.
Here’s the situation:
Okay, so we got engaged in December. My mother been controlling the engagement and wedding ever since. She chose the venue, without asking us, chose the centerpeices, without showing me , favors also. Yes, she is paying for a good amount of the wedding, but that doesn’t give her right to do everything the way SHE wants. She disrespected my FI, and called him ABSURD and DISRESPECTFUL names,, told me my MOH won’t be able to come to the Bridal Shower because she doesn’t like her, and texsted her that everyone hates her and she shouldn’t come to the wedding, so she told me she was hurt, and upset. Then just planned everythig her way. I was calm and let it go but I’m fed up and done. She told me I wil lose my brother if I do this, but honestly; it’s the best thing for me.
She chose everything and we had no say, and didn’t include my MIL in anything and made her feel very hurt and upset. I don’t agree with that. Called her names, called me names on a daily basis, it broke me down to a place I couldn’t be.
Just messaged me on FB today, telling me that she called the wedding off, and that I’m a little girl who’s many different names that I won’t publicize. I decided with my FMIL and FI that we will have the wedding down where we live, which is NC, and she is in CT, where it was supposed to originally be.
I have tried talking to her, making it work, it’s getting nowhere.
Would you just stick it out for a few more months, or get married down here, the way you want things, with the people who won’t make the day hell for you??