Please help me girls :)

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

What kind of information are you looking for? 

The Bees will be able to help you more if they know what information you need. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I desperately wanted like a 25-50 person wedding (immediate family only) but was over-ruled by our parents. They requested approximately 30 guests each (30 for my parents, 30 for each of his divorced and re-married parents) so we ended up inviting about 125 people. There were several people that we were guarenteed wouldn’t come who DID come, and the final guest tally on the day-of was 103.

If you want a small wedding, accept no monetary “help” from your parents and stick to your guns. Tell them in advance exactly how many guests they “get” and have them make all the tough decisions on who to cut out. And don’t let anyone convince you that there is such a thing as a “courtesy invite” with “100% guarenteed decline” because you never know.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Are you looking for advice? Ideas? Venues???

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

i went to a small destination wedding where the couple only had 18 guests. it was awesome. i’ve also been to weddings with guest counts between 30 and 80, and they’ve all been wonderful. i prefer smaller weddings, they’re less busy and stressful.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We has a small wedding with 42 guests on a $15,000 budget. We invited immediate family and close friends. I’m not sure what you’re looking for, but we had a semi-formal event with a restaurant reception. Ours was an adult only affair with the exception of our flower girl. In terms of bridal party I had a MOH and a flower girl, DH couldn’t decide between his friends so he opted to go without a best man. Our colors were gold/champagne, ivory, blush, and misty blue.

We married in a historic chapel so it didn’t need a lot of decoration. We also had a string duo play as guests arrived and during the ceremony. 

Our reception was held in a private room of an upscale restaurant. This room was located on the second level of the restaurant and allowed for optimal privacy. Dinner consisted of a choice of salad, three entree choices, a choice of side, and a choice of dessert (separate from wedding cake). Our baker and florist where allowed to come in early and set up. We also had a 3-piece band which allowed for us to have a first dance and a father/daughter dance. A smaller wedding also allowed us to thank each table/guest for attending. 

For me all the little details were important (the ones you’d see at a larger wedding) – decor, cake, flowers, dress, hair/make-up. The majority of our budget was spent on a photographer, both venues, DOC, and videographer. We opted for cake favors because the guests enjoyed a choice of dessert at the restaurant. 

Post # 9
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Newbee

Hi, 

My FI and I currently planning a small wedding (around 60 guests) in November. When are you planning to have your wedding? We were able to negotiate with our vendors because we are having our wedding during off peak season. To save money, we created our own Save the Date card, will be using silk flowers instead of real, and a few other DIY projects. We found our photographer and DJ on CL. We started planning my wedding two months ago and we are almost done. 😉 

 

Post # 12
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Newbee

For me: the wedding invitation and my dress.  

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