Post # 1
I need help with my reception and response card wording
Kids are invited to the Wedding and Reception but I do not know how to included them in my invites.
Also I am doing a buffet with a chicken tender/ mac and cheese option for kids under 12 (they can also eat at the buffet if they are still hungry afterward for no extra charge)
kids under 3 I dont have to pay for
I am not sure of all my extended family children ag
es ( i am the type of person that if i dont see the kid i forget they are still growing up) how do i note this on the response card?
Post # 3
So, you’re trying to figure out how to count children and their ages for meals? Could you leave a little line on your RSVP for “Number of Children Ages 0-3 Attending” and “Number of Children Ages 3-12 Attending” or something like that?
Post # 4
For the invites, I would just put “The So&So Family” which indicates that the whole family is included.
Is there a buffet for the adults too, or are they getting a served meal? If the adults are eating at a buffet, I wouldn’t bother putting anything further than “are you coming?” on the RSVP. But if the adults are getting a served meal they have to pick, and the kids are getting a buffett, I would just add a “child’s meal” choice for them to select. Most parents know that 12 is the cut off age for “child.” I would ask your mom or someone in the know who has kids under 3.
Post # 5
the adults are getting the buffet
kids under 12 get to have the kids meal plus go up to the buffet
Post # 6
Don’t worry. There is a very simple solution to this. You invite the children by name on the INNER envelopes of your invitaitons. (The outer envelopes are addressed only to the adult members of the household.)
Example of outer envelope:
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
(If the wife hyphenates her name, or has kept her maiden name, follow the specific guidelines for that.)
Example of an inner envelop:
Mr. and Mrs. Doe (no first names of adults on the inner envelope)
Miss Jillian Doe
Master Jared Doe
Miss Justina Doe
On your response cards, all you need is the following:
____ will attend ____ unable to attend
If you receive a reponse that indicates the family is attending, count all of the children toward your childrens’ buffet head count. If some members of the family are attending and others are not, that is incumbant upon the guest to tell you. For example, if only Mrs. Doe and Miss Justina Doe are attending, she should write Jane Doe and Justina Doe on the blank line.
If, for any reason, you should receive a response card that is very ambiguous or offers confusing or conflicting information, you may call the guest to clarify if the entire family will be able to share your special day or if only certain members will be able to be there.
(I should note that, regardless of how formal or informal your wedding may be, the languge above is considered to be proper etiquette for addressing a wedding invitation.)