- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
If you read my first post you would get an understanding of everything I have been through these last few months with my ex fiancée. To shorten it up, basically, he became a very heavy drinker and liar. He decided after six years of being together to break things off between us because he felt I was trying to be his mother.
For a month, I tried so hard to work things out with us and kept getting rejected. I came to realize that our daughter and I deserved better and it was time to move on. Now, he has decided he wants to get back together. I told him I felt as though he needs help and that we need to focus on helping ourselves before even thinking about getting back into a relationship.
Unfortunately, this did not go to well with him. Yesterday I received text messages stating he was going to kill himself if he couldn’t have me in his life and that he didn’t want to be alone. I immediately called his mother who didn’t seem too worried. She told me he would be stupid to kill himself and that he’s not that stupid. I, on the other hand, did not want to take the text lightly. She calmed me down and said she would call and talk to him. After she had talked to him and assured me he wasn’t going to do it he yet again sent me another text stating he was serious.
The text stated that when we find his car we would find his body and it also said he had left money in a piggy bank for our daughter. I freaked and called his sister in law who lives about 2 minutes away to go check on him. Where she got there he was getting into his car and told her he was going to clear his head. After hearing this, I called the police.
We all searched for 7 hours worried sick. During this time, I also learned so much about him that was never true. Such as the heart condition he had lead me to believe he had for six years now. I was completely shocked and felt relieved that the wedding was called off because at this point, I did not know what else he had lied about. I learned that he was a pathological Liar and even if you had proof what he was telling you was a lie, he disagreed and believed all the lies he had told.
Finally at about 10:30pm he had showed up at my house. I was able to calm him down and talk about getting him some professional help. He agreed that he felt he needed the help but was scared. I, still caring for him greatly told him I will support him and be there every step of the way if that’s what he wanted. I than sent him to his parents who were waiting along with the cops to speak to him.
The cops said they wanted to talk to him to find out if it was something he said to just get my attention or if he was seriously thinking about doing it and needed help. They ended up setting him up in a program. He will be attending counseling 2 days a week.
What I’m worried about is what I’m supposed to do next. If he was going to kill himself because I won’t be with him what is he going to do when I again tell him he needs to help himself before being in a relationship with anyone? I think at this point he thinks he has gotten my attention and has won me back. The attention part is right but this has made me realize that things are a lot worse than I had thought and that I think it’s best to just be there for support and nothing more. Believe me I still love and care about him greatly but I know he needs serious help. I just do not want him to end his life over me.