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Well, are those people who are able to attend your wedding able to attend it if it's in November?
Sounds like a go to me. I'd do November if I were you. It seems like that's what's in your heart anyway, no need to force the more traditional wedding if its not what you truly want. As long as your FI is ok with it, and both sets of parents, then I think the low key wedding sounds FAB (kinda wish I had considered it myself in fact).
@stephinPA: Yes, everyone is either in town, close by, or immediate family and will travel whenever we want. :)
@egb: We've sort of discussed it, before this news from my mom anyways. He seemed open to it. The problem is this week he's in Toronto for work, which is not really condusive to serious talks lol.
@jennifer_espos: Thanks for commenting :) I want to make the decision with my FI and then approach the parents, but I know they'll be fine with it!
I think you should have the talk with the FI and if he's on board with it...GO FOR IT!
My mom just told me that if we have the smaller wedding, and cut costs by 50%, they'd still give us the same amount they were going to for the larger wedding. This makes it even easier to have it earlier, since one of the reasons for our long engagement was that we were trying to save up!
Now I feel like I am setting myself up for major disappointment if my FI doesn't jump on board...
If you have your talks with FI and the parents and everyone is in agreement, then go for it!
I would move it up, if it were me. Looking back after the long engagement we had, I would almost recommend having the wedding sooner rather than later, and in your situation, it seems perfect.
I think the new plan sounds good, more like you, and it would be better, financially. But sometimes we get all excited for something and don't see the possible downfalls. Wait until you can talk to your FI about the new plan before planning much further in your head just in case he would have valid concerns (which seems unlikely since it's a simpler plan and it sounds like something a guy would like, but you never know)
@egb: As it turns out he is totally opposed to the idea. I am really disappointed now. He does have a valid concern I guess, he wants to go on a honeymoon right away and he wouldn't be able to do that if we moved the date up. I just can't help but be mad at him!!
Sorry! I guess the honeymoon thing is a valid point. Don't be mad at him though... When he comes back, weigh in all the pros and cons together and see what's best..
don't be mad at him!! I know it sucks but I bet once you are both able to talk about it, you'll feel better. I know it's frustrating that he's not jumping at what seems to be a good solution to the issue - but, I promise you - the time will fly by!
Early in our planning, we had to EXTEND our wedding by almost 5 months and I was so upset about it... but the time really does fly and you will appreciate having those extra months to save (if you end up keeping it in May)
Hang in there!!
He really wont be okay with a later honeymoon?
Sorry he wasn't on board... at least you can not worry as much and have a smaller less expensive wedding! You can save more for the honeymoon LOL
Thanks girls. You're right, I shouldn't be mad at him. I guess I just thought it was a fabulous idea and got upset that he shot it down.
His point of view is that we could go on a super honeymoon with the money we'll save from having a smaller wedding, and he's right I suppose :)
BUT if you have the wedding you wanted, ceremony+casino, you save even more and can have an even better honeymoon! ;) Although then you have less time to put money aside for it...
@egb: That's what we're going to do, have the small wedding, dinner, casino, but keep it in May and that way we have even more time to save, + the money we'll save from going smaller, which could = one awesome honeymoon! I think I am ok with this plan :)
I think it sounds really good and you're going to have so much fun!
And, don't worry, time will fly by; now that you already have almost everything in order for the wedding part, you can spend time researching the most fabulous honeymoon options! Yay!
Do you have any ideas yet?
@egb: We've thrown around the idea of Hawaii or Bermuda! We would do Europe, but we can only go for a week and don't think that's really enough time.
Any suggestions?
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My mom just informed me that most of my family will not be coming to our wedding. When I use this information to make a list, it looks like instead of 80 people, we'd have more like 40. This is fine with me, but we've already booked a bigger reception location. This isn't too bad because we've only paid a $400 deposit.
Anyways, for a while now I have wanted to rethink everything anyways. We're not really center of attention people. I would rather have a small wedding, and for the reception just have everyone out to supper. Afterwards we could go to the casino or something, but no dance, no bouquet toss, none of that.
With that, I really want to move up our wedding date. We already have everything (a photographer who has availability in November, my dress, bridesmaid dresses, wedding party gifts, my mom has a dress, we have invitations, our church is small so I don't think moving the date would be a problem... etc.).
I just don't see a point in waiting if we don't have anyone coming from out of town who isn't super close to us. We already have a house, a dog, I just want to be married!
What do you girls think? I am stressing out big time.