Post # 1
My sister flew into town this Saturday for our wedding (May 8th) and told me she is 7 mo pregnant…and she just found out last tuesday. She was totally blindsided and has no idea which way is up.
What can I do to help? Are there any good pregnancy websites she should check out? Books? I’m really at a loss as to how to help (other than be there for her). Thanks!
Post # 3
Holy smokes! That’s like, real life “i’m pregnant and I didn’t know it!”
If i were her, I’d make sure I had a hospital bag ready just in case!
Post # 4
WOW. That is a shock! Perhapes begin to put together baby supplies for her? My friend recommended “What to expect when your expecting” when she was preganant, perhapes you could put together a care package for her? Help her begin researching maternity leave/babysitters/financial prep/etc? Good luck!!!
Post # 5
honestly bypass what to expect when you’re expecting. It’s completely outdated. pregnancyweekly is a great site umm not sure where else. Maybe plan a shower asap?
She must not have a baby bump. Oh what I would’ve given not to show at 8-12 weeks.
Post # 6
Oh wow. It’s great she’s going to be with you guys for support. My cousin was in that situation. She didn’t find out till she was like 6 mo preggers and was going to wait till a family get together to tell everyone but then she went into labor a bit over a month early so………they found out when she had the baby. Her mom (the new grandma) was in shock!
But it all turned out well, everyones happy and baby and mommy are healthy and they adjusted, everyone was extremely supportive and offered help and baby stuff, which is what she needed.
Post # 7
She probably needs a ton of emotional support more than anything right now! She still has plenty of time to adjust (unless the dates are off), but I’d start off with really simple and non-threatening information before leaping to “What to Expect”… which might freak her out.
Try Girlfriends Guide or Baby 411 which are light and easy reading. Get her a few things to pamper herself right now (lotions, nail polish) so that she can feel good about herself, and maybe an adorable baby item or two (but not too much) just to remind her that despite the challenges, there’s something fun and cute around the corner.
Best of luck to her. You are a good sister!
Post # 8
Wow that is crazy. Maybe you (and family/friends) can start helping her get a crib, car seat, stroller, big items that she’ll need, even if you don’t have the money you can check craigslist for great deals, just make sure everything is in great/clean condition and wash it again once you get it. Also offer to spend a weekend helping her get a nursery together. Do you have time to throw a babyshower within a few weeks? Um after your wedding (just realized it’s this Saturday yeah!). I think she’s going to really need the help of your entire family, I know people who spend months getting ready for baby and your sister only has 2 (if she goes full term). Just be supportive and let her know you are there for her is my advice…and YEAH you are going to be an aunt!!
Post # 9
My mom didn’t know she was pregnant with my brother or I until she was in her 6th month, so it does happen! I agree with the PPs. Just be supportive and start planning a shower ASAP so she can get all the stuff she needs. Maybe go with her to register? (How fun would that be?!)
Post # 10
Thanks for all the advice. I ordered a few things for her and em encouraging her to talk to our parents sooner rather than later. She just started showing last week (tall with a bigger frame) so went shopping for new pretty clothes yesterday. I feel so helpless because I haven’t done much (read any) research for myself or anyone else and none of my close friends have had children.
Post # 11
Holy Cow! That is fantastic and scary all at the same time so I can only imagine what she is feeling! Yeah all of these are good suggestions, I would try to be there for her as much as possible so she realizes she has tons of support, and try to plan something for her if you can (shower). That would be something she doesn’t need to worry about and could really enjoy once she gets her head wrapped around the fact that her baby will be here so soon. If you could get to go register with her I am sure she will aprreciate that too, but really just knowing that you are there for her may be what she really needs. Congrats on soon-becoming an aunt!
Post # 12
Wowza!! What a surprise! I’ve heard of this before. A friend of a friend found out she was pregnant after about 5 or 6 months. She was pretty heavy so she never really noticed anything until her stomach was big enough to begin stretching her skin. I can only imagine what she’s going through! She’s going to have a lot of repsosibilites coming Really Quickly! I would just be as supportive (emotionally) as possible. She’s really going to need someone to help her absorb the shock for a while. After a little while; hopefully she’ll calm down a bit & just prepare! Honestly; once word gets out to family about the surprise; most will probably be willing to do all they can. So maybe if you don’t have a lot of time with your wedding and honeymoon; you can ask someone else to host a shower and you can be there for your sister in other ways.
Post # 13
Congrats on being an aunt!
Post # 14
I agree that her biggest needs right now are emotional. I would skip any really long pregnancy books to read, especially since she doesn’t have time to read them and she’s past most of the help they offer (already being in the third trimester). “Belly Laughs” is a SHORT light read that she might appreciate. I’d also recommend “Easy Labor: Every Woman’s Guide to Choosing Less Pain and More Joy During Child Birth.” It was a GREAT read for me, and really reassured me about my pain-control choices for birth. Also to prepare her for the first year, I’d recommend “What to Expect: The First Year” and “Mommy Calls” which are both great resources for people who didn’t or don’t have time to take classes preparing them for a newborne.
As others said, putting together a baby shower would be nice, as she has very little time to get everything she’ll need for the baby!
Post # 15
I agree with the above. Also, all the “checklists” might overwhelm her, so here would be my short list of what to focus on:
2) insurance/hospital logistics/childbirth class (some may be full, but maybe she can explain the circumstances!) (If I were in this situation, I’d want a doula to help “bridge the gap”, though I’m not using one myself…)
3) shopping — you only need a few things to start!
key — diaper, wipes, “first aid” items, somewhere to sleep (we are using a Graco playard w/ bassinet), a few outfits, and most imp. is the car seat…most popular is Graco’s snugride
here’s the model we registered for…it is one of the few graco’s with side impact safety features…http://www.walmart.com/search/search-ng.do?search_constraint=0&ic=48_0&search_query=graco+rittenhouse&Find.x=26&Find.y=5&Find=Find
even the stroller could wait a couple weeks if need be
Post # 16
In terms of funny, light reads that are enjoyable and baby-related, go with Babyhood, by Paul Reiser. It cracks me up every time 🙂