Please help snap me back into reality!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t do it. No amount of money is worth third shift for me. Blech.

Post # 4
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Do you mean 7pm to 7am?  If so, that wouldn’t be worth 15K to me.

Post # 7
95 posts
Worker bee

He’s going to have to make this decision. Third shift is very hard on some people – I tried it for almost a year and hated it. My ex FIL, however, always loved third. Don’t get too hung up on the sleeping alone thing – he’ll only be working two weeks out of the month. You might find you have more time together than you did before. I say let him think long and hard about what he wants, and support his decision, whatever it is.

Post # 8
976 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

my Dh worked nights (10pm-8am) at a pharmacy– he worked 70 hrs a week and got paid for 80 — so he had every other week off. He did this for almsot 2 years


he HATED it. he was so miserable. I felt like we never saw each other (even during his week off), I hated creeping around the house during the day so he could sleep. His health was worse (horrible headaches, sleep problems, moodiness). We fought ALL the time.


He has been working a normal 1st shift the last year and we are so so much happier. He took a pay cut too but it was def worth it.


Post # 9
2081 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@lexmek27:  7 pm to 7 am when you are already doing just fine? Nope…never. Not worth it.  

Post # 10
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@lexmek27:  FI works 3rd shift right now – 9 PM-5:30 AM. On top of this, he works about an hour away. I met him when he worked this shift, so we don’t know any different, but I will say, it works for us. I work normal 8-5 hours and we have a little bit of time together in the evenings so we can eat dinner at the same time. I must admit, it is nice to have him to wake up to rather than an alarm clock. I have two kids, so I spend the nights with them, homework and all that jazz. 

It is a commitment and you both deserve a say in what decision is made. This is just to show you that it can work!

Post # 12
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I wouldn’t be cool with totally opposing schedules like that unless I was REALLY desperate for money.

Post # 15
1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Not worth it for $15k. Especially since you said you guys are doing fine right now with regular bills and saving for the wedding. If you had some sort of situation where you really really needed that $15k, then I’d say suck it up and do the 3rd shift for awhile until finances get better. But again it seems you guys are good. Pretend that you never knew about this job option!!!


Post # 16
5968 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@lexmek27:  I think you should let the decision be mainly his since he is the one who would have to work those hours. Those hours can be tough. If it’s something he thinks would be worth it to him to do then I would support his choice.


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