- 6 years ago
I need major advice with my 4 month old sleeping habits. I am a walking zombie!
DS will be 4 months old next week, to start he has NEVER been a good sleeper and has never slept through the night. We maybe got a 6 hour stretch a handful of times. But he mainly would sleep 4 hours then wake for a feeding, then he would wake every 2 hours after that.
Up until about 2 weeks ago, we were swaddling him hands and all because when his hands are out they fully distract him and keep him up. He was also sleeping in his bassinet up until 2 weeks ago.
2 weeks ago we made the move to his crib and stopped swaddling. It’s been totally downhill, we are lucky to get a 2 hour stretch and he is up every 45 mins to an hour, with it taking us an hour to put him back to sleep. Just as he goes back to sleep he wakes up again, kicking and flinging his arms all over the place. If we don’t go in right away and sooth him back to sleep he will fully wake up and start crying, and the only way to get him back to sleep is with a bottle.
DH and I are completely drained from this, we are up all night with him either soothing him back or feeding him. We don’t believe in the cry it out method. We just don’t know what to do.
I’ve read that babies go through growth spurts at 4 months but DS has never been a good sleeper to start with. HE is also a very big boy weighing 17 pounds, he is formula fed.
We chatted with our Dr last week he said to start him on cereal and it will help him sleep longer, but he doesn’t like the cereal yet ( I think he is still too young) but it’s also not helping him sleep longer as I don’t really think he is waking up because he is starving. I think he wakes up because of gas or when he moves it totally startles him and he can’t go back to sleep yet.
I don’t know if we should go back to swaddling, we really wanted to get away from it. We do leave 1 arm out and it makes no difference. I am so totally at a lose.
He does nap durning the day. I always ensure that he gets a nap 90 mins after he wakes. He normally does a 30-45 min nap first, then when I run my errands for his second nap he does 1-2 hours, and in the afternoon he does a 1-2 hour hap, and then winddown starts at 6, and he is goes to bed 7/7:30. We have no problems getting him to go down for the night.
Any thoughts? Advice? We are so tried, I am so upset, I feel like I am doing something wrong, and that all my friends have these awesome sleepers and we don’t have that, the lack of sleep is totally catching up with my DH and I.