Post # 1
So the short version- Friday May 22,2015 (Memorial Day weekend)or August 8,2015
Then there are the details. My fiancé and I have family/friends that live in multiple states. We decided to have the wedding where we live because it was a half way point for most guests. All of our guests will have to travel but most will be within a 6 hour drive. We had hoped for May but found out that every Saturday is booked until August 8, 2015. Before we knew this, my fiancé had to request his time off during 2015 so we had requested May. We did check with the families already about any family traditions over Memorial Day weekend. That wasn’t an issue. I was a little bummed about August because obviously it’s a longer wait to marry. I know in the grand scheme this is silly. I worry about having to change the time off through his work. I also have to wonder how hurt I will be if I plan August and then most people still decline to come. Again, it’s silly. Does anyone have a similar experience? I know I can only accommodate guests so much. Personally, I would be happier with having to travel to a wedding over the long Memorial Day weekend but do you think others share this outlook? Thank you all for your input!!
Post # 2
A Friday wedding 6 hours away would mean I’d have to take Friday off of work, and traffic in a lot of places is a real nightmare on the Thursday before Memorial Day when your guests would be driving. I’d probably skip it unless you were my sister. Do the Saturday in August.
Post # 3
If there was a wedding on Friday, regardless of the weekend, I would still have to take Friday off if it was before 6 or took more than 15 minutes to travel to. So there would be no travel benefit for me. (The only real upside is that I could make it a long weekend, provided it was in a city with family or sightseeing.)
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
I voted August 8th purely because it’s my birthday & therefore an obviously great day 😉
Really though, I don’t like the idea of planning someone else’s holiday weekend. So many people usually have something planned or look forward to it ..but then again, the people that wamt to be there will be there to celebrate with you no matter what day it is!
Post # 5
Our wedding date is 8/29/14, the Friday of Labor Day weekend. I was really reluctant to book it and take up everyone’s holiday weekend, but I called all of the people that I really wanted to be there and families with kids to see if this would be an issue for them. Everyone seemed shocked that I’d even ask and no one raised any issues with it so we set the date.
Even though the holiday weekend has not been an issue for us, I would send out feelers to your families and friends to see how they respond if you want to have it Memorial day weekend. You might find that some people already have plans and if not I think more people will be less irritated by it since you thought of them before you picked the date.
Post # 6
What about the Sunday before Memorial Day? Then people wouldn’t have to take a day off of work at all. And most would still be off the next day. So, May 24th?
Post # 7
Go for August 8th. Just because people don’t have traditions for Memorial Day doesn’t mean they won’t want to make plans that year. And if they are consistantly not making plans, it’s probably because they don’t want to travel on such a busy/trafficy weekend.
Post # 8
My wedding is going to the be the Friday before a Canadian Holiday Monday… we figured that people will still have a couple of days rest after the wedding so why not!?
Regardless people are going to find reasons not to come so get a concensus with maybe a good amount of your close friends/fam and pick the date that suits YOU
Post # 9
traffic is going to be a nightmare for people traveling on the friday of memorial day weekend.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2015 - Jellyfish, Punta Cana DR
FI and I are planning a destination wedding. Prior to booking a date, we put out “feelers” in regardes to a weekend wedding vs holiday wedding. Most people perfered to travel the holiday weekend (due to having the monday off). Our wedding is actually May 23, 2015.
Post # 11
I think August wld be a better date. It seems longer now but time passes fast. Especially along the lines of wedding planning.
Post # 12
Horseradish: I had to laugh at this. My brother actually currently lives in the same city but will be temporarily in Florida during 2015. I was told that if we get married anytime in 2015 that they won’t make it. I was in Costa Rica for a week for his wedding. It’s not going over well with the immediate family but I had to tell everyone to wait until it gets closer to see what he ends up doing. I think the distance is going to be the biggest issue. I totally agree that I wouldn’t travel far unless I was close with the person.
gettin_marrid: thank you for this. We are waiting to hear back from the feeler questions for which date. it definitely helped though.
SgrPlum12: that date was already taken too!! It’s crazy how fast things book up. the venue is in Cincinnati Ohio so since it isn’t a huge city i definitely expected more availability.
MeandMyLouboutins: this definitely helped. I think the distance is going to be the biggest issue and that most peoples excuse will be because of that. did anyone invited say anything negative about your choice of a holiday weekend?
mimi11590: I am definitely using your feeler idea. We are waiting on responses. You can only do so much to accommodate guests so this helped a lot.