Post # 1
I never ever thought this would happen to me. I thought, “I’m not a bridezilla, it’s just going to be a great party, it’ll just be fun planning this thing!” Especially since I am SO excited to marry the man I love. It has been a lot of fun, but lately, it’s become really scary feeling. My wedding is 4 weeks away, and I literally can not sleep. Work is extremely stressful right now, which isn’t helping. I am trying to compartmentalize everything and do my work when it’s work time, plan when it is planning time, and so forth… But it’s just all blending together into so much anxiety that I wake up crying. I think it’s just all the little things… Large groups of people saying they are not attending and then changing their minds, centerpiece flower pots died and now I’m going to plan B, afraid I’m forgetting huge and important things, wanting to make sure all guests have everything they need, I’m terrified we won’t have enough structure in our reception, none of the hair salons in town say they can accomodate 6 girls at a time (WTF?)… I’m afraid I’ll be an exhausted mess with huge bags under my eyes by August 23rd. Our wedding isn’t giant- about 80 people, and not terribly extravagent.. But many details, many many hours of DIYing and all the organzing and planning has been just the two of us. I do know it will be the most magical and incredible day, but please, help me find some ways to calm down until then… How can I feel less panicked and enjoy this time?
Post # 2
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I lose sleep when I’m stressed too. Out of desperation I take melatonin sometimes. Just remember that no one will really notice the little stuff. Even the flowers. Do you have a day of event coordinator? I wish I had had one. I used taskrabbit.com to find someone to shuttle guests from parking to the reception. If its available in your town I would recommend hiring people through that! Can you find a couple hairdressers willing to come to you?
Anyway I’m sure it will all work out fine! A few things I stressed about didn’t end up being an issue at all on my wedding day. Just breathe and try your best to remind yourself that people attending your wedding love and care about you and your fiancé and as long as they have the basic comforts (food, drink, a place to sit) they will be happy to celebrate your day with you!
Post # 3
You have to find the strength somewhere inside of you to LET SH*T GO. You are going to have an awesome day IF you go into it with a positive attitude!!! I know you have been planning and worrying about these details for so long and the buildup is just so momentous that it is making you anxious…but…you have to put things into perspective..
you are going to marry the man of your dreams. People who love you are going to be there happy for you. They will not focus on all of the tiny details…they will be focused on celebrating your union with you guys. Even if some little thing goes “wrong”, no one is going to notice/care.
Sounds annoying of me, but only thing that helps my anxiety is working out and not drinking too much coffee. Its gonna be fine.
Post # 4
These are not panic attacks…. You have wedding anxiety. Big difference. I thought id be reading something else when I clicked this!
You need to relax and take things with a grain of salt at this point and know you can’t control everything. Things work themselves out and the day of you’ll be too busy to worry about the small things.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2014 - St. Francis of Assisi Church & N.O. Board of Trade
Deep breaths – you have lots of time. I had a for real panic attack the day before the wedding, so I get what you mean. Do you have any family members or bridal party you can start delegating tasks too? for me, it seemed like more work to explain everything to them, but I wish I had asked for some help! And if centerpieces and other little things don’t work out DO NOT worry about it. Your wedding day will still be amazing, do not stress yourself out about the details!