Post # 1
Fiance and I are butting heads about who should give toasts at the reception and how to go about asking them. I’m not very familiar with American wedding traditions and he hasn’t been to too many wedding so neither of us know the etiquette.
Could you please let me know which of these people SHOULD give a speech, which are optional and which are just not very common:
– Bride’s dad
– Groom’s dad
– Others (mothers, siblings, relatives, friends)
Also for other family and friends who we would like to give toasts, is it ok to ask them or should they offer it? My FI’s father is long deceased, but he has a twin uncle who happens to have a great sense of humor. I’d like to ask him to do a toast since he’s as close to a dad figure to FI as it gets, and also would make an entertaining speaker. Even though Fiance agrees he’d give a fun speech, he thinks asking him would be “putting him on the spot”, “it’s a burden”, and “how is he supposed to say if he doesn’t want to”. I thought it would be an honor to be asked. What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
‘Traditionally’ the maid of honor and best man give a speech. At my wedding my maid of honor and FI’s two best men are giving a speech. My brother is doing a reading at the ceremony, my other brother is singing at the wedding and my daughter is going to do a special dance, so I guess im pretty all booked up for the night, haha. But you can have anyone you want that actually has the guts to do it. I went to a wedding a few years ago and there were 8 bridesmaids and they all passed the mics to each other and said a little ‘somethin somethin’ about the bride. I have 5 bridesmaids and I asked all of them if they were willing and only 1 wants to
Post # 4
Absolutely ask anyone you think you’d like to do it. It is an honour. My fiance is always worried about inconviencing people too but it’s good to give them the option themselves and this is a special occasion, so I say go for it!
I’m in the UK. Traditionally, the best man and fathers give speeches, but we’re anticipating one of the groomsmen and maybe my mum instead of my father to do little speeches.
I’ve been to one wedding where the bride gave a speech, which I think is uncommon. It was special for her because her elderly father wasn’t expected to live very long past the wedding and she got to say some nice things about her family being together and stuff.