Post # 1
I need opinions on my daughters guest list.
I have 8 children & her fiance comes from a famiy of 9 children.
All of our friends have 6 to 12 children in each family.
My daughter & soon to be son in law pretty much only had 1 of the children from each family that they are “friends” with but there are some other families that there are maybe 3 or 4 that they are friends with.
These are my thoughts & was wondering if you all could tell me if it is it totally wrong to do this.
Invite Mom & Dad & the one young adult in that family that is closest to my daughter or son in law for the dinner and then invite the other 1, 2, 3 young adults for after dinner.
I have a total of 22 young adults (from like 10 different families) that would be invited after dinner while their mom & dad & sib would be invited to the dinner. (most of them can drive themselves)
Our guest list is 160 now and that’s really all we can afford for the dinner at $42.00 a plate. I guess I could of had it somewhere cheaper but I didn’t want to.
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
I think selecting one child from each family would be rude and show favoritism. I also find it rude to invite people to only portions of the celebration. I would stick to inviting who you can afford, and avoid hand-picking guests.
The whole point of the wedding reception is to thank guests for attending the ceremony; by telling some people that they can show up after the dinner is served, it comes across as saying they weren’t important enough to go to the ceremony or dinner. I know that’s not your intention, but that’s how it looks to me. Sorry!
Post # 4
It’s not polite to invite people only to the “free” part of the reception. You either invite them or don’t.
But it is perfectly polite to invite only those closest to the couple to the function. There is nothing that says one sibling gets to go to every party the other gets invited to.
Post # 5
@abbie017: No offense taken at all. These are the responses I was looking for. Thanks for being honest. I’m trying to explain this to the bride & groom & they get all mad at me.
Post # 6
No offense taken at all. These are the responses I was looking for. Thanks for being honest. I’m trying to explain this to the bride & groom & they get all mad at me.