- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I need some advice… please
We are now planning our wedding for the 4th time! With us and my FI’s parents and brother being in the Middle East and my relatives in Canada, this is our 4th attempt(well I should say MY 4th attempt cause FI is doing n.o.t.h.i.n.g, in the way of helping plan) at trying to arrange a wedding that everyone can make it to!
Now we have to fly in to a city in Canada, where only one of each of relatives live, to have our wedding. This means that we have to foot the bill for a hotel, as FI’s sister is having a baby a month before our wedding (hence the date change-again!) and we will no longer be able to stay with her. So that means I will only be able to come approximately 5 days before the wedding, leaving us with just a few days, with the time difference of 9 hours and jet lag, to prepare the last minute wedding stuff.
I won’t see my dress until hopefully, at least, 5 days before my wedding, and with all the arrangements, I likely won’t be able to make it my first priority. My FI’s aunt in the US has been making/selling/altering wedding dresses for 25 years, so luckily she will do my alterations for me. But, at this point, I don’t even know what kind of alterations I need. I tried on the sample in the store and it fit perfectly, except in the bust. So I had to order one size bigger, and now it looks like a potato sack in the photos. It finally arrived in Canada, and I can’t see it, in person, or try it on(to see if I even still love it) until only a few days before the wedding. It has lace over lay and I am pretty sure the bust needs adjustment and it will need to be taken in in the hips…
Is this all possible? Can I do this, drive down to the states, do the altreations(which we know does not take 5 minutes, she has to measure, adjust, measure again) which will probably take 2 days minimum, meet with the priest, florist, buy my shoes, have my hair/make -up trial, see/meet with arriving family, meet with the photographer…. and all that stuff, with only 5 days??! Does anyone think this is possible or should I just settle with defeat. If we go for more that 5 days, we have to pay for rental car/hotel/gas… Plus I want to stay a few days after to change my name on my cards..
My FI is so sick of hearing about it that I can’t even utter the word “wedding” in the presence of him, without hearing a huge SIGH.. I mean, it is the 4th try, and I too, am soooo sick of it, but, it sure doesn’t help that he is so completely uninvolved.. I just feel like the wind has been taken out of my sail. I hate the thought of planning the wedding. My FI is not even willing to humour me with any opinions on anything other than the veil. I tried to tell him how I am feeling, this morning, and I think understood where I am coming from, but I doubt he will magically turn into “helpful, wedding planning FI” overnight. What is about (some) men, that they think it’s a chore/burden. It is HIS wedding too!! Why am I stuck with all the wedding stress and arrangements and he just gets to be ANNOYED, hearing about it??? Sometimes I feel like we should just have the wedding with just the two of us. But then, why, after all the tries to make our wedding at a time/place that works for everyone, would I just give up and have it alone? Right..? I need some advice, big time.. please help…