Post # 1
I’ll try to keep this short.
My husband and I got married about two years ago and on our wedding night something terrifying happened. We were asleep and out of nowhere he starts screaming at the top of his lungs and thrashing around the bed as if someone is attacking him. In a panic, I turned the lights on to find out he’s dreaming and isn’t awake. I kept yelling his name and then he woke up but was entirely confused about the whole situation. He remembers the dream but doesn’t remember screaming or any of that.
Fast forward to now and he’s woken me up several times out of nowhere because he is dreaming about sex and acting out that dream on me all while being completely unaware. It’s terrifying and I’m near tears as I’m writing this. I’ll push him off and he’ll wake up momentarily then mumble something and fall back asleep within minutes.
A few nights ago he was sharing a room with a co-worker and his co-worker told him the next day that he leaped out of the bed in a panic and jumped on a chair while screaming and clawing at the air. It really scared his roomate and it terrifies me as well. Last night I had to sleep on the couch because he had another episode and was freaking out again while acting out his dream. I’m scared that he will get violent…he’s calm and sweet when he’s awake but terrifying when he is dreaming.
I’ve done some research and all points to REM sleep disorder which is said to likely indicate a development later on of parkinson’s disease. I’m crushed and heartbroken and I don’t know what to do. Being awoken in a dark room silent by screaming and someone thrashing around takes your breath away and leaves you scared to death. I won’t be able to fall asleep tonight..
Does anyone have any experience with this? My husband has tried taking 5mg of melatonin but that didn’t do anything for him last night. Also my husband is 23 years old.
Can someone please help me out I’m dreading going to bed tonight 🙁
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Sleep clinic!!! Get your man to a specialist!
Post # 4
Yes, he needs to get himself to a sleep clinic ASAP. He’s likely a danger to himself and anyone sleeping near him.
Until he gets treatment, I suggest sleeping elsewhere.
Post # 5
@PinkMermaid: sounds like severe night terrors to me but the good news is its not n3cessarily indicative of parkinsons or anything else
A sleep clinic may well help but you need to be patient as there isnt a quick fix unfortunately. For th3 time being i recommend you sleep elsewhere. This isnot something he hascontrol over or can fix on his own
I have a form of night terrors but very randomly and only when extremely stressed. It means i act out dreams,ive hit my husband several times. I also 2ake up terrified screaming with no idea where i am. Sucks
Post # 6
I don’t blame you for being scared, that would terrify me! As other posters have said, he needs to get into a sleep clinic ASAP.
Post # 7
Wow that is so scary! Go to a clinic ASAP! Have you asked him to go to one yet??
Post # 8
Thank you both for responding. I actually did tell him that he should go to a sleep clinic and he absolutely agreed. They are closed today since it’s Sunday but we plan to call first thing tomorrow to find out if it’s covered by our insurance. I’m just really scared that it’s REM sleep disorder. If that’s what it is, it isn’t something that can be cured, only managed. Having that disorder also gives him a high probablity of developing parkinson’s or dementia in 10-12 years.
Post # 9
@PinkMermaid: oh my. Well you never know, maybe it won’t be so bad. Good luck & keep us updated!
Post # 10
My fiance has night terrors from time to time. I’ve researched it and they are fairly common but there are definitely degrees of severity. My fiance has sleep paralysis when he gets them, and he physically cannot move his body until he wakes up. This is a hormonal response to keep people from injuring themselves unknowingly. People who do not have enough of the hormone, thrash, get up, etc. (what your husband is having happen). I would bet that he is just having night terrors. Still scary, but not a precursar to Parkinsons. Hopefully once he goes to a sleep clinic you can put some of your unknowns at ease.
Post # 11
I would sleep elsewhere tonight (in another room) and get him into the sleep clinic as soon as you can. I also think you should stop reading things online, you’re making yourself worried before anything has happened. Let the medical team figure it out because you’re already worrying about dementia and parkinson’s before he even has a diagnosis! He could have a completely different diagnosis and just because he has one condition does not mean for sure he is going to get another. Some things are associated, but that doesn’t mean it causes the other.