Post # 1
Im printing Invites tonight and Fiance and I are in disagreement AGAIN. I hate this wedding and if it was not 8 weeks away I’d scrap it.
Now I know about tradional wedding invitation wording.
My parents are not hosting the entire thing. In fact I opted for my parents to pay for our entire honeymoon trip instead of the actual wedding. Easier in purchasing and booking things without going to them EVERY TIME i needed to do something. Needless to say they spent alot booking our Hawiian honeymoon.
Fiance parents are contrinuting approx $1000 dollars to wedding (food)
The rest Fiance and I paid for.
I have always wanted to wording on my invite to say Mr and Mrs Thomas XXXX request the pleasure of your comapany at the marriage of their daughter……….
I want to honor my father. I appreciate what he has done and aways has. Im his only daughter of 4 kids and its a big deal to me.
Fiance seems to think this will make his mother upset.
I have never seen this lady upset. She is pretty much a roll with it kind of lady.
This a not too too formal garden wedding and reception.
Maybe I’m in the wrong?
Post # 3
I’m sorry but I do think you’re wrong. His parents contributed too, its unfair to honour your parents and not them. When you weigh up you liking the wording vs their happiness to be included, I think they win. We’re doing “Together with their parents, H and K…”
Post # 4
Why can’t you have the invitation list both sets of parents as hosts? I think that would be fair, if itwould make him feel better. And they are both hosting…
For example that I just grabbed with a 2 second google:
John and Eliza Smith
along with Mark and Sally Jacobson
invite you to share and celebrate at the marriage of their children
Post # 5
Post # 6
If it’s important to him just throw in a “son of Mr. and Mrs. Blah Blah” after your wording. I don’t think the formality of the wedding matters if you’re already mentioning the bride’s parents, mentioning the grooms parents doesn’t make it any more formal. And if it’s something he thinks would be important to his side then I don’t see what the problem is.
Post # 7
I would just quickly run a few wording examples by her and see if she has an opinion. If not, go with what you want. I do think your FI’s family deserves to be mentioned since they’re chipping in.
Post # 8
@rolling berry: This is the way we’re doing ours.
I wanted both sets of parents names on the invite. Even though my parents are paying more than FI’s parents, and we are paying for some things ourselves. I see it as a sign of respect to include them both.
Post # 9
@K_alecia:I dont think ur wrong! I asked him what he thought, got his opinion but did how I wanted it. He doesnt even know the differance. He is just thankful that part is over with.
Post # 10
Im not sure they are actually going to contibute in the end either. His step dad may say no to his mom on pitching in. He has divorced parents……how do I add 3 sets of parents if Im adding in based on just mentioning parents?
And I guess my other wonder was…..my parents paid for honeymoon. Does that count as contribution or am i wrong in putting my fathers name in the invite based on that?
Post # 11
It’s nice that you want to honor your father, but you shouldn’t do it at the expense of dishonoring his mother, even if she is a “roll with it” kind of person. The purpose of the wording on the invitation is to reflect who is hosting the wedding. In your case, you are all sharing the hosting duties and the invitation should be worded accordingly. You can always find another special way to honor your father that day.
Post # 12
Wed in Aug….I love to get my way but i have small issued with not considering his wishes. 😀
Post # 13
We have 3 sets of parents on ours – I think it looks great!
Post # 14
Do you not like ‘Together with their parents..”?? That way you are mentioning all involved parents without having to name a million people. No matter what they’re paying for- they’ve all helped you out in your lives. Its nice to honour them.
Post # 15
I don’t want to use the word “wrong” but I wouldn’t put your father’s name on the invite based on the contribution for the honeymoon, as generally other people would be falsely assuming only his name is on the invite because only he contributed.
Post # 16
If his parents are kicking in financially, their names should be on the invite too.