(Closed) Please let me know if I crossed the Tacky Line

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Have I Crossed the Tacky Line?
    Yes, it is tacky to include a sentence on your wedding website saying that you are not registering : (18 votes)
    8 %
    Maybe, it really depends on how explicit the sentence was on your website : (23 votes)
    11 %
    No, it's not tacky, since you never bring it up and no mention of it is included w/ invitation : (81 votes)
    37 %
    I am going to tell you to register in my comments : (3 votes)
    1 %
    I like polls : (33 votes)
    15 %
    Calm down and have a glass of wine : (56 votes)
    26 %
    Other : (4 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    922 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    You could just say “No gifts, please” if you really don’t want anything.  Or you could do a money/honeymoon registry.  I have done shower invites before and used something like “In lieu of a registry, monetary donations are suggested.”  I was doing the invites so I didn’t mind putting it on there (I was asking for the couple essentially), so don’t feel like you are “asking” for anything.

    Post # 4
    Member
    6209 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I voted maybe, but I don’t think you should give it another thought because if you’re worried about being tacky or rude, you most likely did not write a rude sentence

    Post # 6
    Member
    4529 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @fingerscrossed:  I agree with PP, just leave it at “no gifts, please.” What IS questionable, in my opinion, is when people do that “we-have-everything-we-need-we-don’t-have-space” song and dance that EVERYONE does. I want to say “cut the shit, you’d prefer money.” People will get the hint if you say “no gifts, please” and you don’t look silly 🙂

    Post # 8
    Member
    4529 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @fingerscrossed:  Then if others reviewed it and thought it was tasteful I’m *sure* you’re fine 🙂 For what it’s worth, I try NOT to use the tacky-word to describe anything about anyones wedding, so I wouldnt have been the kind of guest that would have given two shits if you say “Bride Requests Cash” 😉

    Post # 9
    Member
    1565 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Register foreveeeeer!!!! lol just kidding.

    I dont think it’s tacky, the “No gifts, please” is a nice solution.

    Post # 10
    Member
    404 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    It’s fine!  I said not tacky and have a glass of wine 🙂

     

    P.S. I like polls

    Post # 11
    Member
    384 posts
    Helper bee

    go to myregistry.com and register for cash only or label it future spending money for home in the future….

    Post # 12
    Member
    2963 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m not registering and we are asking for NO GIFTS on our wedding web site. Our guests taking the time to celebrate with us is gift enough!

    Post # 13
    Member
    427 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @badabing88:  Haha right on the money, I think there is so much dancing around the gift issue that personally as a guest yes I would actually just like to see “Bride Needs Mula”.

    But I think “no gifts, please” gets across your point – you could even say “no boxed gifts” so people know you don’t want to have to store shit. If I was going to your wedding and I saw no gifts, I’d definitely just get some cash out, put it in a card and call it a day 🙂

    Good luck though because I don’t know your guests or what they are like!

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    3381 posts
    Sugar bee

    Tacky overted!  If you don’t want gifts just say so(I know you’re not supposed to mention gifts but surely there’s no rule about mentioning NOT to bring them?  I don’t know).  Maybe some people will give money, but if nothing is said I’d probably buy something of my own choosing (because I prefer to give a gift over money) but if you say “no gifts” I’d probably write a cheque.

     

    Post # 15
    Member
    2761 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    The people coming to your wedding know you and know your situation, I’m sure they’ll understand that you don’t want a mountain of stuff.  Besides registries aren’t a requirement for getting married 😉 I think not having a registry allows people to either get you whatever they want or give you cash.  I don’t think you need to put “no gifts please” because I imagine you want gifts!  I kind of hate the “no gifts please” statement, it just feels wrong not to give a gift so I wind up having a mental sparring match with myself over what to do – don’t do that to me.  If you feel the pressure to register just pick small or easily compacted items.

    Post # 16
    Member
    4664 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I will say what I always say.

    Nobody wants to have to learn how to divine with tea leaves on Friday the 13th inside a spell ring (or call your mother’s cousin’s friend’s dog) just to figure out what you want for your wedding. I think it’s time to quit shaming people who are kind enough to not waste everyone’s time with beating around the bush. Being straightforward should be praiseworthy, not condemned.

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