- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
You may have seen my posts on choosing a location, and all that has been going on. Well, due to parent guilt (and love too, but guilt) we tried really hard to find a local venue, but as hubby to be is going back to school and I will be sole supporter, saver, and debt payer for the next 2 years until he finishes, and my mom and padre apparently do not anticipate bankrolling anything on the estimated 25K cost BUT think the cheaper venues are “not nearly nice enough and since it’s your day you should pick what you want”…I quit. I told Mom today. I’m sorry, we really tried, but we will do DW.
We started with a DW, and I’m glad to be home! We have about 16 that are in wherever we go, and I think they will follow through. As this is without invites, we may have a few more, but even if it is just us, that’s cool.
We will have a reception at home, DJ, food, booze, cake, but super casual and no wedding markup.
Hubby to be’s folks will probably not be able to afford to come to anything, but one of his sis and bro in laws is definitely in. Only one of my brothers will tentatively come, my folks won’t, as my father is not really mobile enough except for 1 direct nonstop flight.
(I hope I don’t sound inconsiderate, we really tried, but my folks don’t want to help, his folks can’t, and we just can’t afford anything but a lunch hour judge ceremony and family only lunch otherwise, and I don’t want it. I’m fine with paying for ourselves, that seems normal to us, but then we have a budget and other financial goals)
So if you don’t mind, and since we give up on our dates and trying to accomodate anyone, may I have your opinion on our location?
1. Fiji. The original idea and daydream, with full polynesian wedding and warrior escourts. We couldn’t get it done in high season, but will do low.
2. Bocas del Toro, Panama. A drinking village with a fishing problem. I heart it, and would love to get hitched there. Upside, some friends have a house there, and that would be 2 more lovely friendly faces who would join.
3. Phuket, Thailand. Major Pro: ELEPHANT RING BEARER! Beautiful, exotic, many legit guests want to go anyway, I have never been to that side…
4. Hawaii/Virgin Islands/Puerto Rico. Pro, Maybe, only maybe and with no commitment, my parents may come.
I thank you very much for your thoughts!