Post # 1
So I must say that the women on this board are more like my friends than the actual friends I have. My older sister is my maid of honor and I have five bridesmaids. With that said, I want to mention that I hardly talk to any of them. My sister is busy with…work and church I suppose, one bridesmaid lives 30 minutes away at the university we attend. One bridesmaid is pregnant and due any second. One is my cousin and will be graduating from college in one month. One is/was my best friend who goes to school in North Carolina. I call/text/email/fb her and she hasn’t responded in over two months. The last one and I had a little bit of a falling out and I haven’t spoken with her in three weeks.
My wedding is less than two months away and only two girls have purchased their dresses (MOH and the maid 30 minutes away). I know they have busy lives (so do I) but can someone pretend to care about me. No one has mentioned a bridal shower, bachelorette party or anything. They don’t respond to my wedding emails which I rarely send out. Noone even calls to see if I’m alive. I don’t want to be a bridezilla and beg for these things. I would like to know that the women I have chosen to stand by me on my special day can at least pretend like they’re supportive. What should I do?
Post # 3
This is really disappointing, to say the least, I’m sure. It kinda always seems like (from my experience and others’ posts) that bridesmaids are either awesome or missing in action. I’m really sorry about this.
Do you think you could talk to your sister, since she is the maid of honor and should be leading the charge, and ask her if she was planning on doing anything? If she says no, maybe you could ask another friend, family member, or co-worker to jump in and do it?
Also, maybe reaching out to the ones you haven’t been in touch with and ask them if they still want to be a part of your wedding and if not, no hard feelings. I’d rather not have debbie downers standing next to me on my big day.
Post # 4
That sounds terribly frustrating! I agree with KT… talk to your MOH and try to get in touch with the BMs. Maybe if you approach the BMs like you’re worried about them (“Hey, I haven’t heard from you in a while and I’m worried that something’s wrong”) they will be more apt to respond? After all, if someone’s been MIA for 2 months, something could have happened in her life.
If your wedding party lets you down (and it seems like they are) maybe talk to your parents or a family friend and see if anyone else would be willing to host/co-host/pretend to host.
Post # 5
I totally know what you mean & I just started using this site, I think I’ll feel the same way about the people on here compared to my bridal party 😛
My MOH lives accross the country & she’s the only one thats gotten her dress let alone PICKED OUT her dress & they’ve all had the choices for 3 months now. My sister lives across the country too & everytime i say something about the wedding to her she doesnt seem to care or want to talk about it (really fusterating) and my other 2 bridesmaids are my FH’s sisters who live here but they’re not too helpful.. no one (except my MOH partly because she’s newly engaged) has asked me anything about the wedding in a couple months now 🙁
Sorry to hear what you’re going through. It’s tough & fustrating, i know. But we’re all going through or have gone through planning a wedding so we’re all here dor you! 🙂