PLEASE RSVP!

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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220 posts
Helper bee

I would probably try to touch base with them. How past the due date are you? What if you invite others and then some RSVP yes. Then you may be in an uncomfortable situation. My RSVP due date is typo day and I’m still missing about 10. I feel your pain!

Post # 5
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42469 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BrideRhandi:  It’s not rude, but it is a foolish plan that is fraught with danger.

What are your plans for when these people show up at your wedding and there is no seating or food for them?

It is rude of them not to RSVP, but in the end, it is the hosts who are going to end up with the problem.

Post # 7
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42469 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BrideRhandi:  The reality is that someone from one of your families, or your coordinator if you have one,will have to be scrambling to get the venue to set up more tables and chairs and find something for those people to eat.

Your reception will be delayed, there will be noise while they assemble more tables, and you will be stressed out .

Post # 8
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6505 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@julies1949:  +1 

It’s seriously not worth the hassle just to prove a point. We actually had 2 people that had their RSVPs lost in the mail so it does ocassionally happen. It is rude that they don’t RSVP but you’re the one who will end up stressed out if they do show up.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BrideRhandi:  People assume you know they’re coming, Why??? I have no idea. I RSVPed to my own mother’s wedding, and I’m pretty sure she knew I was coming. Come on people. Call them first before you assume they’re not coming, otherwise you could have a cluster on your wedding day.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BrideRhandi:  I don’t think it’s rude. As a matter of fact, I made it clear to my mother, aunt, and fmil that I would not be doing a call around. If for some reason they showed without send an RSVP they can bring a chair and a sack lunch. they basically passed the word out that if I didn’t get the RSVP I would not be expecting the person invited. However, I did end up calling FI grandmother because I just couldn’t fathom that she wouldn’t want to be there so when I didn’t get her RSVP I called to check in with her. Turns out it was on its way, ended up getting true next day. So that might be something to consider as well before not doing a call around. Sometimes the mail doesn’t get hot you. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

the only risk with you not chasing them for their RSVP is that they might be those type of people who assume you think theyre coming and so they dont RSVP and then the day comes and they turn up and theres no room for them because you thought they werent coming.

Theres a lot of family on my FI’s side who have still not RSVP’d but i think theyre coming pretty sure theyre just thinking they dont need to RSVP because theyre family but im not putting anyone down as a yes unless i hear it from them directly.

I’m worried we wont get the numbers we need at this rate. Our RSVP date is 27/9/13 and of 120 people invited only 75 have accepted so far and we have to pay for 100. I will have to chase up the ones who dont RSVP got no choice

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BrideRhandi:  I would check with them. There is the chance the invitation never made it to them, or the chance that the RSVP got lost in the mail. Who knows. I have had both happen. Our RSVP by date was 9/15 so I started following up with people, and some claimed they sent theirs in “weeks ago” while others said they never even got the invitation. I would definitely check with people because maybe they didn’t get the invitation and thus don’t think they are invited. Some people may actually be that rude, but there may be others who think they are getting snubbed.. better safe than sorry!

 

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