Please share how you went about pre marital classes/counseling.

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am religious, so we did complete them as required, but did not have to pay for them.  I will say, it was the absolute best part of our wedding peperations.  I’m sad that we are done now.   We had a few issues that we kind of knew about but avoided on a daily basis that we talked about.   We are pretty good about communicating, but there were some next steps that we needed to take that they were able to point out.   There were really no major uncovered problems that suprised us.   The best thing that came out of it was the confidence that we were very insync with out wants and needs.  And the few problems that we uncovered we are working on fixing.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@soinlove79:  We did our marriage prep through the Catholic Church. We did the foccus inventory which we then went over with our priest and then did a weekend retreat engaged encounter.

Honestly, you may be able to do the foccus inventory online. There may also be other secular inventory-type questionaires that open up the conversations. 

This one is $50, online, is associated with the catholic church, but may be very useful. http://jd8657.tripod.com/ppp/id14.html

There’s also this one from Relate http://www.relate-institute.org/

As far as secular marriage prep services, or retreats, I’m not quite sure I know of any that take place all over. However, the few that I’ve seen from google searches actually use the Relate questionairre as a tool!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m Catholic so we did the Engaged Encounter weekend and then individual sessions with a deacon at my church.  

The EE weekend retreat made each couple ask and discuss a LOT of important questions/ideas/concepts for marriage period, with only a dose or so of “religious” type of stuff.   It was about $200 for the entire weekend.  Not everyone there was Catholic, so even if you aren’t religious, you could see if you could take part in it.  

The 1-on-1 with the deacon dealt far less with weighty pre-marital counseling stuff and was more busy-work religious stuff.  

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

soinlove79– I’m taking pre marriage classes through our Lutheran church, so I can’t really help with the non religious stuff, but I just want to urge you to go! Our Pastor is also a doctor and is just so unbelievably smart. I thought it was going to be a lot of judging whether we should get married, but really it’s just about creating the most successful marriage that we can and starting out on the right foot. I’m sad we only have one more meeting with her to go!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We did both religious and mon religious.  The non-religious we paid out of pocket, $110 per session.  Your insurance may cover it though, so definitely check in to that.  Go to your insurance’s website and they should have a list of approved providers.  I would start there.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

soinlove79:  we are both Catholics and are having a Catholic ceremony. We were required to take the marriage preparation classes through our Church. Our church offered weekly classes for 2 hours for 8 weeks (we could have done a weekend one, but the church is just down the street for us, so no big deal!). I echo what Misswhowedding states as they were really wonderful and I’m sad that they are over. For us, it was a great experience that helped improve our communication even more and brought us closer together. 

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