- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Wedding dress shopping has been a complete nightmare! I am a huge fan of Say Yes to the Dress so I immediately thought this so called emotional and teary eyed bridal moment (the one you see on the show, where everyone ends up crying tears of joy because they all know it is “thee one” would come very easily and quickly for me. But boy was I sooo wrong to think that! In fact, I am starting think it is impossible for the short, overweight apple shape brides like myself. (4’11, 185lbs and I carry most of my weight in my stomach, but my arms, shoulders and back are covered in a nice thick layer of “skin” so I am really not comfortable with exposing those areas.)
So far, I have been to 14 bridal appointments and with an average of about 8-10 dresses at each one and I have had no luck at all! First few times, I was so excited, I brought a huge entourage who all had extremely opposite taste on style and fashion to me or eachother.) I came into this bridal shopping game very nieve thinking to bring so many people with different styles and if they can all agree on 1 dress will surely tell me it is thee one! Nope, wrong again! i was pretty stupid to think that!
Well to make a long story short, it was a train wreck! the shops we went to had NO plus size samples to try on! Instead I walked out of the fitting room just to step on stage in nothing but my underwear and girdle as the sales lady held a dress over my body and in front of my entourage and everyone else’s entourage who were also shopping for thee dress. I felt so embarassed, ackward and uncomfortable I just wanted to put my clothes back on and run out of the store. But eventually I got used to this procedure because almost all bridal store sample dresses that i liked were 15 or more sizes too small.
Out of this whole experience, the only thing I have learned is I need an A-line gown with a natural waist. I have found that I think I like the v-neckline. My protruding belly can’t do any other shape (ie, trumpet, mermaid, sheath) fabrics with high shine like satin or silk satin are not my friends and make me look heavier, just as very detailed dresses/ie, a very high fashion and couture busy look dress does the exact same thing. I have been told to try to expose more skin because this can make a plus size woman look thinner than hiding behind so much fabric. Well, in my case I would be doing just the opposite when I expose more skin. I feel like strapless gowns make my boobs and top half look like I am a muffin top and my boobs sometimes look like they are about to fall out of the dress! my large tummy feels safe in a Ballgown, but unfortunately my height cannot handle it! I just look shorter than I already am and end up looking like I am drowning in large sea of ballgown or any gown with a full skirt.
Now the style I really hope to wear on my wedding day is a dress with SOME LACE (not all) and 3/4 sleeve or short sleeved dress. I may consider a sleeveless if I find one flattering enough, but so far that has not been the case. I am very inspired by Kate Middleton’s wedding dress, but of course the skirt cannot be as full because I am 4’11 and the sleeves cannot be as long because it will make my arms look shorter (I know from experience bc I have seen a few long sleeve dresses on me. Not a pretty sight!)
So if there are any fellow apple shape women out there, I would love to hear any advice, tips, secrets and recommendations in helping out with this process. Thanks guys and happy wedding planning!
Besides David’s Bridal, can anyone recommend a bridal store that carry a large #of plus size sample gowns to try on or any store specialize in plus size bridal gown?
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