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Oh dear.  And you can tell that she knows she has done a bad, bad thing from the cowardly email.  Isn't karma originally an Indian concept?  I do actually believe that eventually the universe evens things up.  People who do petty and rotten things don't end up catastrophically mashed in the road, but they do often end up unhappy and disliked.  And that's good enough for me.

I am wondering about your family whom you need to help.  I guess from your last post that your cousin's festivities will be continuing throughout the week, perhaps up until yours?  Is that why you won't get the help you need?  I would start your campaign now - with everybody who you anticipated would help - and let them know how much you really appreciate that help, and how really grateful you are, especially now that it means they will have to sacrifice some of the later of your cousin's festivities, but you really can't do it without them... etc, etc.  You get the point I am sure.  Some people will go and party rather than helping out, but I am sure that some will realize that she has done a rather rotten thing, and will (I hope) come through for you.  Try not to be too satisfied at the thought that you are taking people away from her festivities, as there is still that karma thing out there waiting for you.  I know it seems awful now, but (cross my fingers) most people are basically good, and I'm sure enough will come through for you to make it a wonderful event. 

And you can wait to email her back - maybe for a long time - because you know you don't want to say anything you will regret - and also because (see, I'm bad too) the longer you wait the more convinced she will be that she is horrible and rotten and has done something truly unforgiveable.