please talk me down about Guest List #…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would probably cut it to 195. that way, you’ll probably have less than 180 show and the venue will be more comfortable for everyone. just because they say 180 doesn’t mean that you’ll be able to easily walk around, dance, and go between tables with 180 people.

Post # 5
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3959 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Skittles131:   My advice?  Don’t invite more than the venue can hold.  Just don’t.

Make an A list up to 180.  Send the invitations plenty early, and IF any regrets come back with the RSVPs, then send out an equal number of additional invitations.  

You do not want to be in the position of uninviting people because you are over the limit.  

Post # 6
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906 posts
Busy bee

First off when it comes to a guestlist I would invite family first, then best friends and close friends, then casual/regular friends exc. second I would invite non relative who are in your phone contacts. If they aren’t in your contacts and you don’t text them once a year or more then they don’t need to be invited. You can also limit plus ones to married, engaged, living together or friends of both sides of the couple. 

Post # 9
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3959 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Skittles131:   I’m sorry!   I really don’t want to see you in a bind later on!!  Better to thin the herd now!  lol !!!

Post # 10
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3959 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Skittles131:   Just had a thought – can the outside space be tented?  Would that help??

Post # 12
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392 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Skittles131:  ugh were in the same boat 🙁 the max is 72 and we are at 114. We cut all friends, were down to family. I hope you get it all worked out!!!

Post # 13
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6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Skittles131:  i think you should cut a few to be safe. But you are right, not all 204 people will come. 

We had a guest list of 210 and we ended up with about 167 

Post # 14
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7216 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Skittles131:  My advice is to drop the “maybes” from your STD list, and hope for some early “no” replies.

But I don’t really know the etiquette of STDs – do some people reply with “no”? I’ve certainly experienced people saying “no” as soon as they know the date, before official invitations are even sent.

Post # 15
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1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Just remember, the fire code number is there for a reason 🙂 I’d cut a few then add them back in if you get some Nos!

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