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I think the dress is gorgeous, but if you don't like it then you should definitely try to do something about it!! It sounds to me like you let people talk you into a dress that you weren't even sure you liked to begin with. Maybe you could explain your situation to the store, and if they're willing to let you try again, you can look by yourself...that way you know no one else can influence your decision!
That dress is pretty. I can see what you mean about it being a bit plain or boring. I think accessories will really help. Maybe do your accessories in a different color for a little pop. What was wrong with the dress you liked with your friends?
I love how quickly you get comments on weddingbee, thanks ladies!
MissCake- The old dress was not the most flattering on my figure. I talked about it in this post here http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/need-dress-reassurance
I agree the dress is a pretty gown for a simple bride but you sound like me you want to be a glamorious bride and each glamorious bride deserves a sparkley embablished dress. Yes i agree with you this dress is very plain see if you can switch the dress they do it all the time its our big day and the biggest part besides from the marriage is the dress we will wear so i think we are aloud to be picky finding the perfect wedding dress is definatly a big freaking deal! good luck.
It's pretty, but you're right about it being pretty plain. Maybe a fancy sash or something could bring it out more.
I personally think you look great in both but I think the second dress is prefect for what you say you want. Do you mind me asking who makes the first dress? I'm a simple bride that wants no beading :)
Awwww you are not crazy! I am a very decisive person on EVERYTHING....except for the wedding gown for some reason. I decided that I didn't like the original gown that I bought and changed my mind about 4 times on which dress that I would purchase instead of the original one. So you are not alone!!! My FI was like "what is the deal with you and this dress?!?" because it was so uncharacteristic of me.
It sounds like you have been pursuaded by others in your gown choice which has led you to not be thrilled about either gown. I would definitely start shopping again because you don't want to be worrying about your wedding gown and not liking it for another 10 months! Even though it really is beautiful, it sounds like you don't love it. I would be afraid to call the bridal store too, but definitely have your FI do it hehe! What worked for me is that I went shopping to a ton of store by myself, made up my mind on "the one" and then took my friends to see it. That way I wasn't pursuaded at all and still had the support and encouragement before I bought it.
I really feel for you, but just hang in there!! You are really not the only one that has been here and there is a dress out there that you are really going to love. Let us know what you decide on!
Thanks ladies, I'm really appreciating all of the comments. Adding a sash has definitely been at the top of my list of things to try, along with possibly adding some scalloped trim along the neckline, I just hate the idea of paying more to try to love this dress. I definitely overly weighted the opinions of other people when I was shopping, I think I just really want everyone at the wedding to love the dress as much as I do (anyone else permanently traumatized by catty wedding guests?).
Edit: I want them to love whatever dress I'm wearing as much as I'm hoping to love it (right now I'm a giant ball of confusion on what I love in a dress) rather then disecting it
Mrscingles2be- I'm a little confused about which dress you want so I'm giving you the info for both. The simple dress in this post is "maree" by Ulla-Maija and the dress in the earlier post is "The Fountain" by Lela Rose.
As others have said, it's beautiful, but if you don't feel right about it, you should see what you can do about it. Edit: I just read what you wrote about loving your dress. If YOU love it, then don't worry!! Wear it and enjoy it!
There is a LOT that can be done with it! You could get the top remade. I've been waffling about it, too. But I just saw a craigslist ad where someone remade the top of my dress. It looks fabulous. Please PM me if you want photos.
I like the basic shape and fit of mine, but it's there's nothing spectacular about it. I can't get my deposit back, and can't exchange the dress. I don't at all feel badly about paying a bit more money to feel better about my dress. When I think about all the money I'm shelling out for photography, I think it's worth it.
Instead of a sash, have you tried a sparkly belt? They had a few in the salon that I went to and just the small amount of sparkle around the waist made a huge difference in how simple the dresses looked. Something like this picture from the pro folio!
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You have a beautiful figure. Anything will look good on you.
I had dress regret. I worked through it and now I am soon to be happily married in my first dress. I just needed to feel personalized. I understand your hunt for accessories. I am wearing pink shoes and carrying a matching pink bouquet. My hairstyle will be an updo. All these things make me feel more personal.
If you want a sash, you can easily make your own with any fabric or a beautiful piece of lace from a fabric store.
Or, David's Bridal sells great sashes in every color.
You can wear such beautiful jewelry with that dress too. What kind of veil will you have?
Don't be afraid to be totally daring and unique. For me, I love pale pink. I know I'm ridiculous, but it's my signature thing. What's your signature thing that you could do that no one else would do.
Me, personally looking at that dress, I see a beautiful silk/or satin band wrapped around you. Or even a piece of black lace. Check out Vera Wang for inspiration. Her gowns are stunning because of the unique details that she adds that no one else would have thought to add. Then every other designer eventually copies her it seems.
Claire Pettibone could inspire you too.
Don't worry about spending more money. It actually has NOTHING to do with the actual dress. It's how you FEEL in the dress. If you feel like a million bucks you exude that energy and everyone notices THAT and not the dress. You have so much time to accessorize.
And if you take care of everything now, you might not leave time to let the perfect things organically find you. That's what happened to me. But now I'm going with the flow and I am happy.
Don't worry about your deposit or the details. Go to a quiet place, close your eyes and picture how you want to feel in the dress. Imagine you feel better and more stunning than you've ever felt. Picture your FI seeing you for the first time. Just focuss on how you feel. The answers will come to you.
But, you have a killer figure and just know that you can where anything you please. :)
Good luck!
Maybe instead of changing the dress think of it as a very beautiful and flattering canvas and add the accessories. Look for a lovely veil and/or hair accessories. Have a glamourous hair stayle or dramatic jewellry a classic dress like that to me is begging for a dramatic necklace.
Maybe as someone else suggested personalise it with some bright coloured shoes or crinoline. With the folds I am not sure how it would look with a sash with all that gathering. Maybe something simple like a think medieval style chain belt or something dramatic with crystals in it instead of a sash.
Have you tried it on with a veil and a headpiece of some sort? That might change how you feel about the dress too. Make it less "plain". You could go a very dramatic long veil with a pattern through it, to add texture
Could you add sleeves? A lace over jacket. I have seen a similar style with a very simple dress with a beautiful long lace over jacket that became the train behind the dress. Is your wedding in winter? Some sort of jacket. I love the cute fluffy winter coats you see for wearing with bridal wear.
I wouldn't worry too much you have a beautiful figure and its a beautiful classic dress now you get the fun part of personalising it and making it yours.
Rather than change the dress, I would carry a cascade bouquet. These can be "too much" with a fancy dress but I think if you did a modern interpretation of the cascade bouquet and included some trailing greenery to go with the lines of your dress it would look amazing next to your simple gown. Something like this one maybe.
just remember...if they do not let you change the dress it can work...just dress the hell out of it with accessories.
I don't think your dress is boring at all! It falls beautifully on you, and I think is the kind of dress that showcases, rather than overwhelms the bride. Don't forget you will be made up, hair done, carrying a bouquet, probably with a veil. I would get a pair of really dramatic chandelier earrings.
That said, I had a dress freakout as well. About a month before the wedding I decided I hated the way my (very expensive, non-returnable) dress fell from my hips. So I ended up spending $300 having a crioline sewed into the bottom to create a fit-n-flare look. I felt silly, after all the money I had spent. But, it made the dress PERFECT for me. And now that I have the pictures I am SO GLAD that I just sucked it up.
Find a way to make this the dress of your dreams. Or switch. You shouldn't have regrets.
The dress is beautiful on you! I think the simplicity is extremely elegant. The silhouette and draping is amazing. If you'd like to accessorize, go for it! But I think it looks perfect as is.
I love your dress!!! I think it is perfect for you, and I'd just add a whimsical flower at one of the hips and call it done.
Really, you are very lucky to have found a dress that looks so amazing on you!
Oh and you can wear fabulous jewelry without feeling like you are overdoing it! Lucky!
The dress is beautiful. However, it's YOUR wedding. So if you don't feel happy about it, it's perfectly fine to do something about it. Especially if you think that you will always feel bad about it when you look at pictures later. Like everyone said, you should not have regrets. And seriously, if you cannot be picky about your dreams and goals, what can you be picky about?
I think that you can find an amazing bouquet to go with that would make a statement. We're having a City Hall ceremony so I could not get a gown. Instead I am wearing a beautiful silk dress from anthropologie, which I love and I feel is very me. It is not all white because, just like you, I was afraid of having a boring dress. So my dress is embellished with a floral print on the bottom, but it makes it difficult to find a bouquet. Visually a white dress is the perfect background for a fabulous bouquet... as well as stunning jewellry. If you decide to keep the dress, i agree with a lot of the other bees and there are lots of other elements with your entire look that you can use for a damatic effect like sapphire jewelery, long gloves, etc.
Best of luck with your dress!
Pease let us know what you end up doing!
This is probably what you don't want to hear, but the dress that you didn't buy looks perfect on you! The curves of your body fit the dress.
Buying a wedding dress is awful... there is so much pressure to buy what other's like, when only YOU should make the decision because you're the one that has to feel confident and beautiful in the dress!
As far as dressing up the dress, how about adding lace or something underneath? Mrs. Pomegranate had pleats on the bottom of her dress: http://www.weddingbee.com/2009/06/03/the-wedding-my-life-would-suck-without-shoes/
There's a lot you can do with the dress if you choose to and it does look lovely on you, but none of that matters if you don't feel like a bride in it. The thing with wedding dresses is that it's not just about choosing a beautiful dress. Choosing a beautiful dress is easy enough, especially for the decisive gal, but it's the holy grail to find one that makes you feel ah, like a bride.
I really like the dress! I think if you want something flashy, a bridal belt would be gorgeous! They make them in swarovskis and they are really pretty! Also, I agree that you could stick with the simple dress and wear some really glamorous jewelry! Have you tried on the dress with all the goodies yet? It really makes a difference! But if you are truly unhappy, see what can be done about it. If the store says no, there ARE ways to make it work =]
It looks lovely, but you need to be happy with the dress as is. It sounds to me like you let your mom make the dress decision for you and changed it bakc out of guilt, and now you regret that. It might just not be your style. I think the one you and your friends picked looks INCREDIBLE (it does NOT look bad on your figure...everything looks good on that figure!), but you have to be the one to love it. You might be out a deposit, but Id suggest trying more on. I would never suggest that if you were having second thoughts over a dress YOU PICKED, but you didnt. I think you need to explore all of your options before you make a decision
Agree with DG: get a pretty flower to put on the hip and I think it'd be just fine - wear some bling and you'll be looking good!
I don't think with the draping around the waist that a belt would work in this case. Why not have added sprays of swarovski crystals or pearls like in this picture in through the wrap area in the bodice?
Something like this for added oomph!
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OH...I like Bellenga's suggestion. Can you add something to dress it up and not lose all that you've got in the dress?
I do agree that it's your dress, and you need to LOVE it. If you don't think that you can add something special to it to make it more YOU, then you need to change it. No matter how many times it's already been changed!
I think Bellenga is right on here. Some tiny crystals or pearls along the gorgeous pleating would look amazing!
I think your dress is beautiful and classic, and I know its stressful and not ideal to personalize it, but think of it this way - it will be one of a kind!
Wow Bellenga! Love that picture! I'm a bead/crystal/pearl girl myself, and I love that suggestion rather than a sash!
I think you need to get the dress that YOU love. I know it's hard sometimes. I also know that you want to make your mother and FMIL happy. But you need to get the dress that YOU LOVE!
I don't think the dress is boring. I would maybe add a sparkly broach or a flower like Mrs. DG suggested, at the hip. I would also glam it up with your earrings and a bracelet.
Your dress is classically beautiful! My dress is also classic looking and I am using the opportunity to wear a statement necklace and a more detailed veil.
Oooh, I love your dress! It doesn't have any beading or embellishements, but that neck line is not simple. If you really want to add something, I agree with lemilie, they make beautiful belts that would look very pretty. I would check out Etsy.
GORGEOUS dress! I wouldn't call it simple. I would call it elegant. :)
Good luck!
If you do consider a sash, something like this one on etsy adds sparkle and drama.
EnglishDept on Etsy also does custom made shrugs that are beautiful.
And I do like the idea of adding crystals at the neckline and pleats to add sparkle.
But the best accessories.....your jewelry.......
Thank you all so much for your comments; I cannot begin to tell you how much calmer all of you made me!
My fiance’s been awesome with negotiating with the dress shop about return options since I last posted (while I hid under the covers and panicked over every 212 number I received.)
Meanwhile, I went dress shopping again today by myself and boy did it make a difference. I tried on a lot of beautiful and more ornate dress and then at the very end the woman offered to pull out my dress again to compare the two. All of the dresses I’d tried on that day would be fantastic and I could envision myself walking down the aisle in almost all of them, but the dress I bought is the only one that also makes me also feel like dancing the night away in it as well. I’d forgotten how comfortable it was to wear, so I was already feeling a little better about it. I explained my concerns to her though, and after a few initial ideas, just like all of you clearly brilliant ladies suggested, she ran and got a crescent shaped rhinestone and pearl broach (well, ok technically a headpiece comb that can be made into a broach) held it up and I was fantastically in love again. The photos I’d hastily taken definitely didn’t do the dress enough justice to begin with (a fact I’d totally overlooked until I saw the dress again) and this tiny addition made all the difference for me and highlighted the waist of the dress where all of this beautiful draping occurs. So yay, no deposit lost and I don’t even need to spend a ton on addition alterations to add any beadings! Phew. 
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I LOVE your dress. How about a belt like this? One of my bride's grandmother hand sewed 200 swarovski crystals to a piece of satin that matched her dress (DROOL!!)
I think the dress is beautiful, and I agree that a bridal belt would make it perfect. I'm in the same position. I couldn't choose between two dresses. I chose the simpler one, and now I'm having second thoughts. I ordered a beautiful belt with crystals and taupe ribbon (though they did mess it up and I am waiting on them to fix it) which will dress it up, and I think it will be fine. I still have doubts and anxiety over my decision, but it is what it is. I am sure you're dress will be perfect with a few accessories.
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A semi-quick recap. A year and a half before the wedding, my mom, FMIL and I went dress shopping back home and found a dress that they loved. I was worried it looked a little too wrinkly for my taste so I decided to keep looking. Four months later I took two of my grad school friends to see the same dress in a different store. They quickly deemed the dress too boring and convinced me to get a different dress which I put a deposit on. My mom was not thrilled with the dress I got and I eventually understood why.Eager to have any other dress, I was very relieved when the store agreed to transfer my deposit from the dress I ordered to the dress my mom had originally liked.
It is now 10 months before the wedding and I think I hate my current dress as well. I feel like my dress makes a beautiful gown and a rather boring wedding dress and wish that it had more embellishments. I have spent the last few months trying to envision (and frantically Photoshop) sashes, shoes, jewelry, and trims but I feel rather ridiculous spending more to make the dress "wearable" then I have on any other piece of formal wear in my life when the dress was already so expensive to begin with.
My fiance has offered to talk to the store and see what they can do (since I'm too chicken to) and while I'm anxious to see what they will say, I'm also worried that they will hate me since even I think I sound ridiculous. Even if they let me switch dresses (again!) I'm worried that I will just go through this all over again in another 4 months. I am normally a very rational person so I have no idea why I'm having so much trouble figuring out what I want for this! Sorry to ramble on, but I would really love so feedback from all of you lovely bees!
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