Post # 1
FI and I are having a daytime wedding with a reception from 12-4pm in August in NYC. We decided that we would take additional pictures (with just each other) from 4-6pm and then host a casual “after-glow” party at a local lounge/bar later in the evening for friends, who are staying in town.
I’ve been searching for an after-party dress and found the below and fell in love. I thought it was perfect to change into for our separate pictures from 4-6pm as a surprise just for my FI, and then I could remove the train to wear just the dress to the after party.
Well, the problem is that this dress is twice what I paid for my actual wedding dress! It’s around $5,000 (or $3,000 without the train). Once I heard the price, I thought I should move on because ideally I wanted to find a cute dress for the after party that I could wear again for just a few hundred dollars. BUT, I can’t stop thinking about this dress and I can’t find anything that looks as beautiful. Purchasing it won’t hurt us financially, but I just feel like I should not spend this much on a second dress for just a few hours of wear on top of all our other wedding expenses. On the other hand, I am paying for most of the wedding and feel like I should be able to purchase this special item for myself because it will make me happy (I think?).
I think am just getting caught up with wedding frenzy (right?). FI and I are trying to keep to a budget, and while this dress could be worn again, it’s probably not worth the expense (or is it?). To complicate matters, this dress is only available online from the manufacturer and all sales are final, so I can’t even try it on beforehand.
Anyone know of any similar dresses that are under $1,000? Or should I indulge myself in my one wedding day and succumb to my desires (at the risk of hating the dress once it gets here)? Or should I look into a seamstress to custom make a lookalike (but I would imagine it would be almost as expensive or I may not be able to find lace as beautiful as the original or it may just not come out as expected)?
Please talk me out of this (or support my insanity?)…
Post # 3
@Mode: Personally I hate the high low hem. If you want a fun flirty dress, go all short.
Post # 4
It’s cute, but not for $5000. What a gouge. You can certainly find something similar that you’ll likely wear again for wayyyyyyyyyy less. wherebwould you wear something like that again? Probably no where ,so I’d keep lookin!!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park
I personally love the high low hem but just looks bad with the lace. Kinda awkward Looking to me
Post # 6
@Mode: Only you can answer if that dress is worth $5000 to you, and if you can afford it. But personally, I’d never spend $5000 on anything that I couldn’t see in person then not be able to return it.
Post # 7
I’m sorry but that dress is NOT worth five grand! I also don’t think it looks that nice to be honest..
Post # 8
Train train is removable, so the dress just has a short hem once removed. Interesting that the first few responses are negative. I guess I should keep looking. My wedding dress is a silk ballgown, so I really wanted a lace fit and flare for the after party.
Post # 9
@Mode: I am personally not a fan of the dress or the high low hem but in no way do I think its worth 5,000…..if you are really really set on the dress maybe reach out to Jasimes bridal for an estimate!
Post # 10
Yeah.. Not worth that. Plus I think it’s trendy so I wouldn’t wear it in photos, I bet it wouldn’t age well. That being said, I think it’s cute without the train thing. A short lace dress shouldn’t be too hard to find, right?
Post # 11
@Mode: The material makes it look tacky.
This would be a fantastic dress for your occassion! if only it were in WHITE!
Post # 12
@Mode: I cant jump on board with the price. It is your wedding day and I think that it is OK to spend a good amount on your dress, but considering you already have one…i wouldn’t spend $5k on another ESPECIALLY if you don’t know how you look in it. What if you purchase and don’t like it?
I am sure you can find another for much cheaper
Post # 13
@Mode: I like the feminine yet modern look of this dress.
It is too bad you do not sew. You could make a copycat this dress for under $300 even with expensive bridal material.
Post # 14
@Mode: Shoot, I just realized it’s by St. Pucchi!!!! I love their stuff!
But seriously, I still would not pay the kind of money they ask for.
Post # 15
@Mode: personally, I think it’s ugly and it’s ridiculously overpriced. I’m not against hi-lo hems but this one is just weird and the flared skirt…
Post # 16
I’m not a fan of the dress. It looks like you put a cape on and letting it drag behind you. And for $5000… NO