Please tell me his parents are just lazy…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@ceemarie7:  Have SO take care of it.

That’s stupid of them on their part.  What are they thinking????

Post # 4
339 posts
Helper bee

I say ignore it. you pointed out plausible reasons for why it could be there. But take note. If the next time you visit, it’s still there, I would have a word with him.

Post # 5
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Say something to SO!

Post # 6
52 posts
Worker bee

uggh no. Thaat’s not appropriate at all. Tell your SO. 

Post # 7
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i would have your so deal with it.

it is a bit insensitive on their part though.

Post # 9
1355 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Make it 5 to 1. Be calm about it but express how awkward it is to be sitting at their kitchen table and seeing a picture of him and his ex on the fridge. I wouldn’t like that, either. I would have probably sent him a text telling him to look at the pic on the fridge lol.

Post # 10
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I would mention it to my SO. Or I’d bring them a picture of me and him and say, laughing,”For you fridge!”

Post # 11
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

@prahajess:  That’s passive aggressive. Op-if you say anything, do it directly.

Post # 12
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@ceemarie7:  You could mention it to your SO if you like, as in, “oh hey, did you notice this?” but you can’t demand he do anything about it. Its his parents house – they can have a shrine to this girl if they want.

If your SO decides to mention it to his parents, it should come from him, not you and not on your behalf. Even your SO doesn’t get to tell his parents what they can have up in their own house. 

Post # 13
724 posts
Busy bee

Ignore it. They have a friendly relationship and presumably a fond history with this woman and it has nothing to do with you.

Post # 14
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

@invisabee:  lol. I was being tongue in cheek.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a sense of humor about it, if you have the right relationship. If you don’t, let your SO take care of it.

Post # 15
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ceemarie7:  I would ignore it.  Just because he’s dating you now doesn’t mean all memories of his past have to be erased by everyone he’s ever known.

Post # 16
4134 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If it’s been there for a long time, she probably has it tuned out and didn’t even think about it. I would be a bit hurt too, but I would probably just ignore it .. then have SO give her a picture of you two later. 

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