Please tell me if I'm being ridiculous

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
3826 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Diamond84:   Is it possible to arrange a portrait shoot at the gazebo with the photographer?  You could wear your dress and not the hair clip.   *hugs*  I totally get how you feel – I’d be the same way in your situation.  I tend to visualize things and then get upset if they don’t work out or if I forget.  

Post # 3
4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

Diamond84:  This is nothing to be “devastated” over!  It will go away as time passes.  Just sit back and think about all the good from that day! 

Post # 4
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Oh I hear you. We missed so many pictures because we were just BUSY.  Also my flowers sucked.  Like I almost didn’t carry them sucked. They were brown and looked dead.  They weren’t what I ordered, weren’t the shape they were supposed to be.  The boutineers weren’t what THEY were supposed to be. I’m trying very hard to not be totally pissed off about it anymore.  No one could tell from afar, but ugh it makes me mad lol.

I’m sure they’d let you come back and take a few photos.  You could wear your dress again, or you could get a short white one!

Post # 5
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Honestly, I’d see if you guys could set up another shoot! Do you still have your dress and tux? I’ve heard of other couples doing this.

Post # 6
946 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Diamond84:  I can sorta relate to some of the emotions you are feeling. My 2 photographers (husband and wife duo/friends of family) didn’t get a group picture of me and hubby and our two families together, kind of a big grand photo of everyone. I was really upset when we went through the pictures that I didn’t get that. ALSO I specifically told my photographer that I wanted a picture of my fiance’s face as he saw me start to walk down the asile. That was the ONE freaking picture I wanted more than anything. I didn’t get it. I didn’t even get anything close. It was a total bummer for a couple weeks after getting pictures back. But now, I got over it. The rest of the pictures were truly great. I know it doesn’t sound like much now, but eventually you’ll be ok with the pictures you missed. There are plenty of opportunities to take more pictures in the future, in my opinion. I just make the best of it.

Post # 7
1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014


Diamond84:  Aw, I know how you feel. I wanted wayyy more outdoor photos at our wedding but it was just way too cold. We took some and I think they’ll be great but I still feel sad that we did not get more. I am not in tears but I do regret not just toughing it out and getting more done.

Post # 9
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think this happens to all of us! Day of is such a whirlwind (in a good way) and sometimes we just forget things we had planned for months. I forgot to bring my invitation to get photographed, I forgot my flowers when I walked down the aisle and I didn’t take a group shot with my Bridemaids. 

But you know what…I have amazing memories and all our photos capture that! I was a little upset over the flowers for a few days but really that is so not important since I had an amazing day and we are married and happy 🙂

Post # 12
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

it happens to pretty much everyone. It will pass! having perfect wedding pics won’t be nearly as important in the future As simply having the pivs to document the memories will be.

maybe do an anniversary shoot?!

Post # 13
246 posts
Helper bee

Diamond84:  Sounds like “wedding anti-climax” to me: the whirlwind of planning and its stress is gone, and you’re exhausted.


This too shall pass

Post # 14
1965 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would agree with PP that say in time you will get over they way you are cufrrently feeling. 

You could always try to arrange another shoot at the venue to get the photos you so desperately wanted.

Im not a huge fan of my wedding photos. I havent got a single photo of me and my Mum and that was one I specifically asked for. On the day you get so involved in other things that these things slip your mind.

We had some further photos taken at a different venue in the Autumn a few months after our wedding with our Daughter and I love these so much more than our wedding photos. 

Whilst your wedding photos are important, there will be other oportunities in life for professional photos together. Try not to get too worked up over it. Life is too short. 

Post # 15
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn


Diamond84:  i DIYed ALOT of my wedding and wanted the typical ‘bridal magazine shoot’ detail shots. i didnt get them. i also wanted one with me and my gran. i didnt get it. i wanted one with me and my girls messing around. i didnt get it. one of my dress hanging in a window or from a tree…. i didnt get it. it SUCKS at the time – but you WILL get over it!!!

5 months later and we STILL dont have our photos back (the down side of using friends as photographers!) not being able to see them everyday around our home i get myself really down about the shots i dont have!! until i look back at the online gallery and see that actually – although i havent got the ‘stereotypical’ shots i wanted, what we do have sums up our day perfectly and brings back some AMAZING memories!!

maybe go back to the gazebo for your 1st anniversay! maybe ask your photographer to photoshop your clip out of a few pics??xx

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