Post # 1
I feel that I have been more than accommodating and very patient with my bridesmaids regarding their dresses. All I asked was that they get it from David’s Bridal (distance issues) and that the actual dress be Marine blue, floor-length, and mostly satin. The rest was up to the girls’ own personal preferences. I am fully embracing the matching-but-different bridesmaid dress look.
My soon to be “matron-of-honor” (I put that in quotes because she has totally flaked on her responsibilities) has put up a fight about getting fitted for and ordering her dress. I told my girls back in October what I want for the dress in order to give them ample time to look for, get fitted for, and save up for the dress that they want to wear in the wedding. Every time I gently remind her that I think she should go for her dress fitting, she tells me one of two things: A. She’ll do it within the next week or B. She’s too busy planning her own wedding right now. And I’ll tell you straight out that answer A has been a lie since February. It has not been done.
She is planning her own wedding, which was supposed to be Summer of 2012 but she moved it up to July of this year. I know that she’s busy. I get it. But can’t you give me one hour of your freakin time to get fitted for and pick out your dress???!
I called DB today and they said that they tell brides to allow 6-8 weeks for delivery and 4 weeks for alterations. That’s 12 weeks, worst case scenario, if she were to order it this minute. My wedding is in 16 weeks. I’m starting to freak out a bit.
I will be calling her later on tonight after she gets out of work. I don’t want to sound Bridezilla-ish. I’m fed up and worried that I’m going to lose my cool, but this needs to get done ASAP! Help!
Post # 3
If it is any encouragment for you, my sister ordered her dress 3 weeks ago and it arrived last week, so sometimes it doesn’t take as long.
Post # 4
Since she’s planning her own wedding, she should understand the importance of ordering the dress so that it arrives in time. IMO, she’s just being selfish. Talk to her tonight and tell her that the store informed you that it needs to be ordered NOW so it will arrive on time. Put the blame on the store to be the bad guy.
Post # 5
You aren’t being a bridezilla! She needs to suck it up and do what you asked! She would ask the same thing of her bridesmaids. You gave plenty of notice. David’s called me and told me that if my MOH didn’t order her dress by the end of May, it might not be finished with alterations and everything before the wedding. Ask David’s if they’ll call her with a friendly reminder…lol
Post # 6
@shimmerofheaven: I know it can be stressful, but if it makes you feel better my sister and best friend ordered their BM dresses from David’s Bridal on May 30th, and they were literally in the store on June 4th. They came in super quick. The same with the alterations, we’re picking up the finished dresses (and my wedding dress) on Wednesday. Maybe you can make a date to go with her? If you guys set a date to go maybe she’ll be less likely to break it and more likely to get it done?
Post # 7
I’m sorry you’re going through this. All these stupid little things sometimes add up to create big time stress! I think you definitely need to have a better chat with her. Have you tried maybe talking to her from the perspective of being a fellow bride? That might hit home a little better with her. Hopefully she gets on board ASAP. If she doesn’t you’re going to have to talk to her about more than the dress unfortunately…
Post # 8
Maybe let her know she needs it within the next four weeks, because if she doesn’t get it, she won’t be able to be in the wedding, though that’s not what you want… or something like that…
Honestly, I have seen on a lot of posts that DB is faster than the deadlines when it comes to bridesmaid dresses, and I mean, if she can’t get it altered, its her problem if it looks bad. And worst case scenario, it sounds like shes really not being great with the wedding anyways… if she doesn’t get her dress and can’t be in the wedding, it probably won’t be the end of the world.
Post # 9
@chasesgirl: I appreciate the encouragement 🙂 My maid-of-honor (yes, I have two) ordered her dress in October when I asked and it came in the second week of December :(. I’m just worried that will happen again.
@Ms. Sparkles: She wouldn’t know that DB didn’t call because her dresses aren’t from them. That could work. Now if only I could calm myself enough to not want to scream this into the phone when I call her.
@FutureMrsBPB: lol I wish they would call her, but I doubt it. I would love to shirk my bridal responsibility on this one and hand it to someone else to deal with!
@PinkPandaBear: Thanks for the info on the timing. I’ve been trying to get together with her for the past few weeks so we could talk about it in person… it just hasn’t been working out. I invited her over for dinner on Thursday but she said she’s too busy dealing with her own things to do dinner right now. I’m trying! 🙁
@west.coast.blonde: I know, that’s what I’m worried about! She and I have been super close for the past few years… but since she’s started planning her own wedding, I feel like I barely know her. The worst part is that she’s marrying FH’s brother! I’ve known her since before they met, too. I don’t want to have to have that “do this or you can’t be up there with me” talk to my FSIL. 🙁
Post # 10
@lawschool bride: Usually, that’s how I’d feel about this sort of thing. This is a sticky situation because she has been my friend for years and is marrying my FH’s brother. They met a few years after she and I did. I didn’t want to give an ultimatum to my FSIL but it looks like that’s where this is headed. 🙁
Post # 11
Well NOW is definitely the time to order. DB has full length Satin gowns in Marine Blue for $59.99 in their sem-annual sale.
Post # 12
First of all…woah! Your best friend is going to be your sister-in-law, crazy! Isn’t it weird though (and a bit annoying?) that she was supposed to get married after you and now she’s getting married before you?
Back to the issue at hand though: the dress will probably not take very long to get in. However, after getting married she’ll have excuses about having to unwrap the wedding gifts, having to send out thank you cards, having to organize the house, etc. So make sure she gets fitted NOW before her wedding. It really isn’t that big a deal, she should not be making this so difficult for you given how much notice you gave her.