Please tell me I'm not the only one this crazy! Lol

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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1177 posts
Bumble bee

MrsKP:  you’re not crazy or alone! I’m married 26 years, still look and buy rings (yes, even erings)  😉 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I love looking at other rings!!  I would never be able to upgrade my ring becuase it holds such significance to the both of us.  Why not get a RHR instead?  Also I think it would hurt my Fi if I even asked or hinted about an upgrade… especially since I just received mine not that long ago.  

Post # 4
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226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

A lot of men just don’t get the desire to browse! ‘Why look now if you’re not gonna be buying now?’ my DH would say.

Maybe your FI thinks youre not happy with your current ring if you’re already saying you want to upgrade it. You could point out to him that loads and loads of men look at super fancy cars like Porches, Lamberghinis, Veyrons and dream of owning one but it doesn’t mean theyre not happy with their current car.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

MrsKP:  I haven’t looked at rings since I got engaged but I get it 🙂

Usually after I buy, whether it be a car or something from Victoria’s Secret, I still browse!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Nothing wrong with browsing for the future!! I have a car and I still look! However I probably wouldn’t tell SO I was still looking, just like he doesn’t know I’m drooling over a new car he’ll advise me not to buy…   Might make him feel like the one you have isn’t up to par…. 

But you’re not crazy!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I’d still browse but not say anything to my FI, he’s like yours and would get upset if I talked about other rings when he already bought me one.  Maybe one day in the future for an anniversary but not now

Post # 8
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Busy bee

MrsKP:  Jewelry in general is a passion of mine. I plan on becoming a gemologist and then becoming a certified appraiser and maybe own my own shop one day.

Rings are my favorite type of jewelry and I look at them all the time, no matter where I am. I will glance at the jewelry counters in Wal-Mart when I’m shopping, window-shop at Zales of Kay at the mall, visit local jewelry shops and estate sales, browse ebay, anything lol. You’re not crazy at all 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

MrsKP:  I think in the future look at rings alone. Don’t go showing your FI and being like ” look you can buy me this as an upgrade later !”

I totally understand why he would feel  insulted. I would too if I were him. He bought you a one carat not that long ago and you go telling him that in the future you want an upgrade as a 2 carat? Are you actually shocked that his feelings might be hurt?

Just browse alone, most girls love looking at ring pics, but have enough sense to not show their fiances (who just bought them an e-ring) a bigger version and tell them they want it as an upgrade…

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ve been married for 3 1/2 years and I’m still ring OBSESSED! 🙂

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

There’s a diffrence between looking because you’re wanting to upgrade and want to see your options vs. just wanting to look at pretty sparkly things. Men don’t tend to get the latter.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I’m with your FI, this is ungrateful behavior.  Look at rings in 5-10yrs or whenever it is that you are ready to upgrade, but looking for something new and better right after you got what you currently have is ungrateful.  My feelings would be so hurt if it was so plain as day obvious that the receiver of a gift that I gifted didn’t think it was good enough or what she wanted.

Post # 13
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Honey bee

MrsKP:  Married almost 16 years and still totally jewelry and ring obsessed. I love looking at all kinds of sparkly things, and rings are my absolute favorite kind of jewelry. I tell my DH that it’s my inner magpie at work — LOL. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

i always find in every joke (even half-joke) there’s a kernel of truth. so i am sure you’d love it if he went ‘okay – for our 10th anniversary i will get you that 2ct ring!’ i know i’d love it! lol but i also know that i’d rather him spend that $ on a fantastic vacation for both of us instead. i look at rings too (even though i have an e-ring already), i also look at wedding dresses (even though i have one hanging in the closet) and show him what i like (but i never say anything about upgrading it). he says the same thing your FI says – so now i just dont show him anything. he sees me looking but doesnt say anything. if in the future you do want that upgrade, then have that conversation with him 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

Would you be resentful of your FI if he continues to browse women, after he’s picked you?

haha, just kidding.

I’m here at WB to look at rings and pretty wedding dresses and I am decades past a wedding.

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