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and not wack.
I've always wanted a big wedding and thought I would have like 200 people there.
But faced with budget issues and being that the wedding is now coming out of our own pocket books, we have had to pair it down significantly. So we will be having arounf 90 people, 100 tops.
There are things I am not willing to compromise like having an open bar (ha) and a nice venue but I still worry that it will not be the raging party I've always envisioned, with people dancing all evening.
FI says I have bought into the wedding hype and the people that love us will have fun, if we have fun. I am just so worried that it will be wack and people will be bored. I mean it's not like we will have a photobooth and a magician, just dinner, drinks, and dancing (hopefully)
Im being unreasonable, right?
@Aubergold: I worry about this too, and our wedding will be even smaller than yours!
I have been to huge weddings which were super boring, and small weddings which were super fun. As long as you are having fun, your guests will have a great time, regardless of the amount of people!
Your wedding will still be a party even if youre having less people than you thought!! I'm sure with an open bar and good music it will keep them on the floor all night. Plus, i don't think it matters how many people you have there, and 90-100 people is A LOT of people! I'm only having around 40 for my destination wedding and I know my family and friends will be dancing all night! Good Luck!
Fiance is right. You are going to have a blast! Everyone will be so excited for you, you're going to look ridiculously amazing and that right there is a party in itself! If it makes you feel better, make sure the bridal party gets people up and dancing! One thing that might be a good mixer is the have the DJ or BandMaster have every guy ask a girl he didn't bring to dance (or vice versa!) That's a good way for the two sides to mesh and it's usually a barrel of laughs.
Good Luck!!
we had a 60 person wedding on a sunday afternoon with a cash bar and everyone had a blast. I was pretty worried it would be boring but we just could not justify spending money on things that dont matter to us (e.g. alcohol...we really dont drink and did not drink on our wedding day even) People danced literally all night. It was a blast! Its all about the people on your guest list not how many people! I am sure your wedding will be the party you want!
It is all about the people you have there and not the amount of people. If they are people that love you and care about you, then you will have the best, most fun wedding you always wanted. You and your FI will make it fun and you do not need 200 people to do it.
We're inviting 83 people but HOPING that only 70 or so actually show. The less people you have, the more time you'll get to actually spend with your guests.
We both come from small families so the 83 people is literally everyone who we wanted and needed to invite. Honestly, I think I would have a nervous breakdown if I had a 200+ person guest list.
I've been to a number of smaller weddings (less than 100 ppl) and they were absolutely perfect.
FI and I had similar reservations, but he made a great point: because our guest list got so small everyone will know one another, and therefore will feel WAY more comfortable "cutting loose"....it might end up being a better party!
It will be AWESOME!!! I had far fewer people than that, and it was perfect. I got to speak and hug everyone who came, and we tore that dance floor up. The pictures all show everyone smiling and having a good time and the dance floor is jumping! I might have had 55 people.
Thank you Thank you Thank you guys! I really needed to hear this.
Especially after I told a friend of mine about the number and she made a face :(
At the end of the day all of your family and friends will be there. You know your cowd better than we do. Are your friends the type to get out on the dance floor.. if yes then I wouldnt worry about it we are having 112 at our wedding so not much bigger than yours. I think that It will be a blast. Its still a good amount of people.. More than any raging house party lol. And if the night gets off to a slow start its you, your FI and the bridal party that need to set the tone for the night. You all get your butts on the dance floor, and it will encourage others to do the same :) Dont worry it will be a blast.
We had 102 people (including us) and our party was so much fun! The dance floor was PACKED for two hours. Its more about the personality of your crowd than the sheer size of it.
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That's still a lot of people. All those fun house parties you've gone to with 25 people? Way fewer than 100. It'll be fun.
Our wedding was 69 people (including us and the photographer) and it was epic.
I'm sort of in the same boat...what will 80 people look like in a venue that can hold 150 or more?
@Jeannine @ Small Chic: yeah our (potential) venue hold 150. Im hoping they can block a section off.
@crayfish: lol dont judge me. Im still getting used to our "smaller" wedding since it's so different from what we were originally planning.
@Aubergold: Our room could hold 150 too and it didn't look empty at all. If thats the MAX the room can fit then it would be kinda cramped if they actually tried to sit that many people. My thinking was "Fine, more room for a bigger dance floor"
We had 92 people at our wedding on Sat, and it was great. It didn't seem small at all when we looked around at the reception, and lots of people were dancing. Plus, then you get to spend more time with everyone than if you had a larger wedding.
@Aubergold: it will definitely be a party! I had 80 people and it was a blast, we danced and drank the whole night and had a blast :)
Actually any more guests and it would have been cramped...but we had about a 1500 sqft reception venue. We all had enough room to dance but everyone was up. As long as you have a lively crew...some of our guests just sit back and didn't move the whole night
I'm wondering if a positive might be that seating 8 people at a table meant for 10 is possible?
Here's a table set for 10 at my venue. I think the plates and silverware are a little close together, aren't they?
Well hello lady :) Glad you came back. I realize it may have been a while ago but I was gone too.
I think a 90 person wedding can still be a blast! but I'd reconsider the no magician thing...jk
Last wedding I went to had about 60 people and we were ALL up and dancing the whole night. It was a total blast... the night went by so fast, suddenly the party was over and we couldn't believe it! It had nothing to do with the amount of people there, but the personality of the B&G and all their guests. Your wedding will DEFF be rockin'!
My brother's wedding had about that many people, and it was really really fun. Of course, a lot of my friends were there and they had an awesome band to dance too. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about!
It's not the size of the group but the ppl there that makes a party happening. As long as your group is dancing and having fun, size doesn't matter and it will still be a raging party!
Yes, you can totally have a big party with a smaller guest list.
We're inviting about 100, expect about 80 to show up, and it will be an EPIC RAGER. It's partly about inviting the right people, partly about playing good dance music, partly about the open bar and having a fun crowd and encouraging people to have fun. Honestly, the biggest parties I've been to were the smaller weddings. Not that we haven't been to some nice 100+ person weddings, but those tend to get more seperated out, and have a more formal feel to them. The two weddings we went to with about 50 people were INSANE. People barely knew each other to start the wedding, but between the open bar and the size and space allowing people to mingle, they both ended up being legendary.
Your venue may say 150 is what they hold but I bet you that is their absolute max. Our venue said 150 and we only had 130. 130 actually felt tight and every space was filled. We would have had the perfect amount of space if we only had 100 people. I don't even know where those extra 20 people would have fit had they all come!
You can still have an awesome party with 90-100 people, even much less than that! You have to remember that not all 200 of your guests would have been out on the dance floor at one time anyways! 90-100 is still a lot and this way you will get more of a chance to spend time with your guests!
Your wedding will be awesome! People who love you will have a rocking good time, dont worry!
@Aubergold:I have 103 adult guests and I think it WILL be a party. What are you worried about? That's plenty of people to party. :)
Our venue is for 200 max.
These are my thoughts exactly, but we are only having 70!! I was expecting a lot more, but I'm happier with the fact that it is smaller and more intitimate. I'm sure it will be a blast!!
I too worry about this, we are having an "intimate" under 90 people wedding, and I hope the party keeps up!! But then again, our entire wedding is only 4-5 hours! So hopefully our families utilize ALL that time & have a blast! xo
Trust me, it will still be a party! Ours was and we had about 100 people. It was actually a great number for us because we still were able to go around and personally chat with almost everyone.
It will totally be a party if YOU TWO are having a blast. I have found with this type of stuff that the crowd follows the couple. I have been to a wedding with 150 people great DJ but it was boring because the crowd wasn't right. If your people are dancers and you and your groom are getting down it will all fall into place.
oh! one trick I heard is to make the dance floor a little smaller so that it looks a little more packed and people are encourage to come out. But, no worries, if you guys dance you will not be alone.
honestly, just think of it as a club... you dont bring more than a handful of girlfriends ot a club anyway... so if you just invite the people you're the closes too, it'll be fine! no worries!
I wouldn't worry at all. My daughter got married in Feb and we invited about 90 people. But because of visa issues (her husband is from South America) and the travel required by our side of the family (wedding in Florida- most family lives in PA)- we had 55 people show up.
In addition, in order not to have the "Catholic gap", the reception started at 2 pm. I was soooo worried because the reception was in the afternoon (and outdoors) and of the language barrier (some guests only spoke Spanish). I was worried people would sit around staring at each other. So much that I was having nightmares.
Well, let me tell you... what a party it was. Once the music started, no one was sitting. My 76 year old father was dancing! La Hora loca was a BIG hit with my family from PA! Who would have guessed!
We had so much fun and we danced so much, now I am owrried to see the professional pictures. My hair and makeup was a mess. I just have to try and remember it was because I had so much fun.
Having a small wedding reception was the best! My daughter and her husband said that everyone that was there was very special to them. It was so sweet and made the day so much more special!
All you need are a few great friends to make it a party! 100 is MORE than enough to have a terrific time, don't worry! :)
I'm also inviting 100 guests but so far I found out a lot of our guests wont be able to make it due to they are traveling out of the country and apparently didnt save the date...So I am expecting to only have maybe 80 or more guests show up in the end. Just make sure you hire an AWESOME Emcee/DJ to keep everyone dancing. If your DJ sucks, then your guests wont have a good reason to dance..so if he's amazing, they will want to dance! Make sure your DJ plays music in the beginning, middle and end because you want the DJ to come out strong and make a bold statement from the beginning that this is going to be party all night thing!! And your bridesmaids and groomsmen need to bust out their moves and bring guests to the dance floor too. Also, doesnt hurt to throw in some games in between the reception and give out small prizes etc.
woah! Most of the weddings I've been to have been 75-100 people and they've been a BLAST! I think what matters the most is if the bride and groom are dancing. If the Bride and Groom don't dance, the dance floor is a little emptier.
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