(Closed) PLEASE tell me your planning frustrations!!

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
Member
26 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Planners aren’t done where I am from so I know nothing about that – but I can’t imagine you in your situation NOT having one! jeez!

could you communicate mostly through email? 

Post # 4
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1780 posts
Buzzing bee

I normally don’t advocate for a planner but in your case I would say it is a VERY good idea. Many planners intentionally go above and beyond the couples budget and wants becuase they earn more off commission and referals (this might not be the case everywhere, but it is here) What I would do though to make it YOUR wedding still is to have everythign you and your FI want clearly outlined before you even talk to a planner.

Example: we want less than $________ for a venue which includes___,____,&_____

make sure you have it 80% (basicly a fill in the blank here type of wedding planning) and then call around to event planners until you find one that will work with your plan to make it happen. 

Post # 5
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m right the opposite of you! Planning for a wedding in Asia when I’m living in SoCal! I actually did all the wedding planning on my own and made 2 trips back to Asia alone to check out the venues for the first round and did the food tasting, evening gown search, meet up with the make up artist, photographer and the florists for the second. The 2 trips back helps me to solidify much of the wedding planning for me I’ll say and I felt more at peace. I conversed with the vendors mostly by emails thereafter. It definitely helps when you know they are reliable and responsive. It was one of my primary selection criteria when it came to vendors. But if I were to plan for a beautiful outdoor wedding here in SoCal, I will defnitely hire a wedding planner if the venue we want doesn’t offer a package. The most difficult about wedding planning could be trying to stay within the budget and managing one’s expectations. 

Post # 7
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Yes, I agree and I think it’ll be easier on you to just hire a planner so as you can have a peace of mind, knowing that things are being taken care of. I feel it’s tough to just select a venue just from looking at pictures on websites though, thus I knew I had to see it in person and also have a feel of the space. Perhaps you could squeeze in one trip with all the necessary appointments in place? E.g various venues which has availability, photographer, florists etc. 

Post # 8
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449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@nushka:  my very best friend lives in New York City and is an EXCELLENT wedding coordinator, if you decide to go that route…he plans weddings and events all over the U.S. and doesn’t have an outstanding rate because his company is only a year new…if you are interested in learning about him, let me know or you can google him…his name is Jove Meyer 🙂 wedding coordinators are DEFINITELY worth it, ESP when you live thousands of miles away!

Post # 10
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312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Were getting married in New York and we live here. It is way too overwhelming. There are just too many options. We’re using Cheryl J from Cheryl J weddings. She’s been amazing. I think a planner might be a good use of money and good for your sanity.

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