(Closed) Plus 1 question

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think that’s necessary. Most people will understand from the invitation/RSVP card. If someone writes in an extra person then you just give them a phone call and gently explain that they cannot bring a guest.

I would be a little weirded out if there was a note in the invite telling me that I couldn’t bring a guest!!

Post # 4
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351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Emily Post etiquette would probably say that the invitations alone should be enough to make it clear to your guests.  I would say that most people these days have no clue who Emily Post is.  So….I say that the note your mom suggested does sound considerate and apologetic and I don’t see anything wrong with including it.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree with Tiny Tina…its not necessary…they will get the hint when its just addressed to them…you can deal with the unruly RSVPs that occur later! i would also be a little weirded out by a note…

Post # 6
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518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think it’s necessary either. It just brings way too much attention to the point and it could be seen as insulting in that some guests may feel that you aren’t trusting them to get it.

Post # 7
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee

@blg529:  This exactly.

By adding that card you are drawing attention to the fact that you are not allowing them to bring dates.  Just hope they will understand that only those listed on the invite are invited.  If people try to add additional guests you’ll just have to make phone calls after the fact.

Post # 8
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1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I saw a very creative/tactful way of making the amount of guests clear somewhere on the web…

It said that on the response card, put a phrase like, “2 spots have been reserved in your name” (or in your case, 1 obviously). That way they know who exactly is invited.

I thought it also great for large families with multiple kids … If a couple has, like, 8 kids and the # on the card only says “2 reserved spots”, clearly the invite is just for the couple. 

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