Post # 1
ok so I need some serious help bc FH has no clue and I want to do the right thing I guess you could say….I have a few ppl I am inviting that just got divorced or broke up with BF’s do I invite them with a plus 1? Also FH isn’t close at all with his family but we had to invite certain family bc other family was invited and you know how it goes but some of his cousins are in their 20’s do I invite them with a plus 1 even if they don’t have a BF/GF and if they do hv a bf/gf do we do plus 1?….I’m so confused on how this all works and we are on a budget with the list and we don’t want random ppl at our wedding just bc that is the current bf/gf or bc that person isn’t with someone at the time but all these ppl will hv friends or family that they know n will most likely be sitting with….ahh help please!!
Post # 3
Generally, unless the person is married, engaged, or living with his/her SO, you’re under no obligation to give them a plus one. If you think that all of these people will know other people at the wedding, they should be fine without a plus one, especially since your budget doesn’t allow lots of extra guest. However, keep in mind that many people assume that their SO is invited, so make sure you’re clear about exactly who’s invited.
Post # 4
Fiance has 3 cousins in their 20’s- and only one of them right now has a plus one. They have been together a while and may even be engaged by our wedding. Other than that, the others don’t have dates.
Normally people will know whether their SO is invited by the names written on the invitation.
Post # 5
I’ve found myself somewhat in the minority on these boards about it, but I feel like all adults should get a +1 if at all possible. I went to a lot of weddings while I was single and I always had a better time at the ones I had a date at. Its not to say that I can’t have fun without a date, but if there’s dancing involved, yeah, I wanted my boyfriend there even if we have only been together for a short time.
Post # 6
thanks ladies I am leaning more towards not plus one for FH’s cousins and friends who are in their 20’s and aren’t dating someone plus our list is already tight and I just don’t like the idea of paying so much money for a distant cousin’s or friends bf/gf that I have never met or will never see again that’s such a waste of money plus the ones that are on the younger side I don’t need drunken random ppl (if they take it to that extent I always think the worst) ruining the wedding….I mean of course I will invite SO’s if they are serious or have been together awhile bc I do agree it’s more fun to dance with u’re bf than father at a wedding lol it’s also hard bc FH isn’t close with a lot of them so he doesn’t even know how to find out or feels weird calling and asking…ughh