(Closed) Plus 1's for a Destination Wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think especially for a DW plus 1s are required for the reason you stated.  Who wants to travel alone? And if they come they may make a vacation out of it so they will want to do that with someone. 

Simply because its a DW many people may not come for the cost so that will automatically cut the list down. Those that do come will likely bring a plus one if they have a bf or gf.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re having a DW and all the single people got a +1. The wedding is in Scotland and no one is going to go that far, on vacation, and have to go alone, or worse, take someone withthem who isn’t “allowed” at the wedding. So yes, I’d do a +1 for everyone

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think with a DW it’s very important to give everyone a +1, as it’s totally different being somewhere alone for days versus just one evening at a local wedding. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m of the opinion that invitations to destination weddings should always include a +1.  Who wants to travel alone?  I would also think it would be more expensive for them on their own, since they wouldn’t get to split the cost of their room. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you should give them a +1.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Reign14:  I would allow it. I probably wouldn’t go to a DW if I were not allowed to bring a guest.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Reign14:  Regardless, since its a DW you should invite them with +1’s. Especially if they have SO’s. Let them decide if they want to bring someone or not.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Several years ago (before DH and I were married) I was invited to a DW by myself (so my boyfriend at the time was not invited).  I get such little vacation time to begin with that if I’m going to take a vacation, I’m going to take it with my SO, not go on vacation by myself.  I obviously turned down the invite.

Edited to add that my boyfriend was not someone that I was newly dating, we had been dating over a year so I was surprised that the invitation was only addressed to me.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If you’re having a DW, you should allow guests to bring a +1.  It’s rude to ask them to travel alone and stay alone, where they may not know other people well.

Plus, if you’re getting married down south, your single guests will be required to play a “single supplement” on their room charges…which is an imposition to single guests.

Think of it this way: while you’re on vacation, enjoying couple time with your hubby, you single friends will be spending the time alone, with no one to do activities with during the day, while you’re busy doing other things.  What if they have to eat dinner alone at night?  Seems like a lonely trip…I’d decline your invite.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Traveling alone sucks.  Definitely invite a +1.  Don’t put people in an awkward position like that.

 

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Definitely a +1.  It’s unlikely people will go on a destination wedding with a brand new boyfriend/girlfriend because of the cost.  Like others have said, having a DW will decrease the amount of people that will go anyways.  

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think + 1’s are necessary for destination weddings. I wouldn’t want to travel alone.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Definitely need to give everyone a +1, even if they will know other people invited.  I think it would be very inconsiderate to ask guests to travel  and stay alone.

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