Post # 1
I know it is fairly customary (although not required) to allow family and friends a +1 with a wedding invite. Is the etiquette the same for a Destination Wedding? One of the main reasons we’re having a DW is the keep the guest list down…so it seems counterproductive to allow +1’s, although I’d feel terrible asking some of my good friends to travel alone, especially those with a SO, those coming from a place where we don’t have mutual friends they could travel with, or those who don’t really know any of my other guests.
On the other hand the chances that someone will bring another person are slim, since it is a $1200 commitment.
What do you think Bees? Should I allow +1’s for my DW guests? Should I only allow it for special cases? Or should I shut it down completely?
Post # 3
I think especially for a DW plus 1s are required for the reason you stated. Who wants to travel alone? And if they come they may make a vacation out of it so they will want to do that with someone.
Simply because its a DW many people may not come for the cost so that will automatically cut the list down. Those that do come will likely bring a plus one if they have a bf or gf.
Post # 4
We’re having a DW and all the single people got a +1. The wedding is in Scotland and no one is going to go that far, on vacation, and have to go alone, or worse, take someone withthem who isn’t “allowed” at the wedding. So yes, I’d do a +1 for everyone
Post # 5
I think with a DW it’s very important to give everyone a +1, as it’s totally different being somewhere alone for days versus just one evening at a local wedding.
Post # 6
I’m of the opinion that invitations to destination weddings should always include a +1. Who wants to travel alone? I would also think it would be more expensive for them on their own, since they wouldn’t get to split the cost of their room.
Post # 7
I think you should give them a +1.
Post # 8
@Reign14: I would allow it. I probably wouldn’t go to a DW if I were not allowed to bring a guest.
Post # 9
What about the fact that most people we’re inviting will know people there. For instance all my female friends are also friends with each other. Same with FI’s friends. And with family members, most are couples or have kids so everyone is of course invited. There are only a hand full of people who would be “lonely”. I know it being a DW will keep the numebrs down, but then adding +1’s for every single person will make the numbers creep back up :/
Post # 10
@Reign14: Regardless, since its a DW you should invite them with +1’s. Especially if they have SO’s. Let them decide if they want to bring someone or not.
Post # 11
Several years ago (before DH and I were married) I was invited to a DW by myself (so my boyfriend at the time was not invited). I get such little vacation time to begin with that if I’m going to take a vacation, I’m going to take it with my SO, not go on vacation by myself. I obviously turned down the invite.
Edited to add that my boyfriend was not someone that I was newly dating, we had been dating over a year so I was surprised that the invitation was only addressed to me.
Post # 12
If you’re having a DW, you should allow guests to bring a +1. It’s rude to ask them to travel alone and stay alone, where they may not know other people well.
Plus, if you’re getting married down south, your single guests will be required to play a “single supplement” on their room charges…which is an imposition to single guests.
Think of it this way: while you’re on vacation, enjoying couple time with your hubby, you single friends will be spending the time alone, with no one to do activities with during the day, while you’re busy doing other things. What if they have to eat dinner alone at night? Seems like a lonely trip…I’d decline your invite.
Post # 13
Traveling alone sucks. Definitely invite a +1. Don’t put people in an awkward position like that.
Post # 14
Definitely a +1. It’s unlikely people will go on a destination wedding with a brand new boyfriend/girlfriend because of the cost. Like others have said, having a DW will decrease the amount of people that will go anyways.
Post # 15
I think + 1’s are necessary for destination weddings. I wouldn’t want to travel alone.
Post # 16
Definitely need to give everyone a +1, even if they will know other people invited. I think it would be very inconsiderate to ask guests to travel and stay alone.