(Closed) Plus One

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
2701 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think it is rude personally. I would have done the same thing. We did the same thing as you as far as inviting plus ones for those who are married, in long term relationships, live together, or have a child together. For others, we didn’t invite a plus one because our friends all know each other and we are having a luncheon reception, no dancing. I think you are in the right and are handling it now so a bunch of unexpected people don’t show up.

Post # 4
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3 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t care for plus-ones, myself, and I’m not doing it either. Everyone in a relationship or marriage is having their significant other addressed by name on the invitation. I’ve also spread by word of mouth that we’re not having children or plus-ones.

And friends then worried that means I’m not inviting their girlfriend or boyfriend of two years, but I let them know those people were going to be my guests.

I kind of don’t like how weddings are treated like a prom instead of an intimate gathering. I can understand not wishing to attend a wedding where you know nobody, but if you love the couple and know other people there, then you mustn’t care terribly for the couple getting married if you can’t bear to go solo.

I think you were perfectly fine, and your guests were unfortunately the incorrect party in trying to take control over your guest list by inviting their own guests. It’s lovely to try to make room for SOs you didn’t know about, but he ought to have contacted you to inquire about inviting her, rather than assume.

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