(Closed) Plus One Confusion

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3779 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@neo651:  There is probably one standard RSVP card. I’m sure they didn’t have different wording for everyone they invited.


Unless it says Your Name and Guest, I’d say it’s safe to assume that only you (without a +1) are invited.


If you want clarification, you can always ask. 



Post # 4
669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@s2bmrscook:  Ditto — only those listed on the inner envelope (or if no inner, the outer) are invited.

Post # 5
680 posts
Busy bee

@neo651:  Have you and your gf been dating for a long time? Does the bride/groom know your gf? Do you live together? Usually only those listed on the invite are invited; however, as many threads on here will show, there is always confusion as to what to do with those who are not yet engaged but are/aren’t living together. My bf got an destination wedding invite for his good friend’s wedding a few months after we started dating. We got serious pretty quickly, and I met the engaged couple a few times. As the date got closer, the bride extended an invite to me as well, but it was too late and too expensive for me to go.


If you and your gf are an exclusive and serious social unit that goes to many family and friend events together as such, I’d ask your friend if she’s invited or not to make sure. If you two are living together, she should definitely be invited and you should definitely ask about it. Don’t RSVP for two without asking first though!

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