Plus ones

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
8587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would gently tell her again that you cannot accomodate her boyfriend & his kids. If she persists, just tell her you are sorry to hear she will be unable to attend by herself.. and you wish she was there.. and leave it at that.

Don’t let people push you into adding additional people you can’t afford!

Post # 4
Member
7912 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@k_steffensen:  If they live together then they are a social unit and you should invite her bf. If he’s a recent bf, then you’ll need to politely tell her that you’re only inviting long term partners (or whatever your rule is).

You don’t need to invite anyone’s kinds though, but you should be consistent. i.e. you can’t invite other cousins’ kids just because you’ve met them. It is ok though to have mostly no kids and make exceptions for very close relatives like nieces and nephews.

Post # 5
Member
10457 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

When you send the invitation, make it clear again who is invited. The STD is too early for them to be RSVPing so just ignore it for now. If they keep pushing, stand your ground. 

Post # 6
Member
968 posts
Busy bee

Plus ones only need to be given to people who are married, engaged, and live in partners. 

Post # 7
Member
552 posts
Busy bee

You have to invite anyone together who is a social unit: that includes married couples, engaged couples, and cohabiting partners. Technically, these are not ‘plus ones’, as they are to be invited by name.

For truly single people, you don’t have to include plus ones – just addess the invitation to the single person’s name only. You can also have the reply card indicate something like “we have one seat reserved in your honor” or something similar.

Post # 8
Member
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@k_steffensen:  I think you should call her up and tell her that it simply won’t be possible.

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