Plus Ones…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who should get a plus one?
    Grandfather : (19 votes)
    22 %
    Grandmother : (29 votes)
    33 %
    Aunt (only if she's seeing someone) : (11 votes)
    13 %
    Aunt (no matter what) : (29 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I voted for your grandmother and aunt. Give them the opportunity to bring someone if they want. Your grandfather probably isn’t dating at 98.

    Post # 4
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    1295 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    WHy dont you ask your grandfather if he would like to bring someone to the wedding?

    Post # 5
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    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MsGinkgo:  Call and ask if there’s anyone they want to bring.  Tell them it can be a friend, a date, whatever.  Then, give them a plus one whatever they say, just in case they say no out of being polite.  Your grandfather might want to bring a friend just to show you off, or maybe ge knows someone else whose family is gone, or far away, who would like to come to a wedding, and have a nice day out.  Maybe your aunt will bring a duck on a leash and you can all talk about your crazy aunt for years to come.  It would really quack me up, that’s for sure.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If everyone is getting a plus one just allow them the same courtesy and let them either bring a date or not. 

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2024

    I’d give them all plus ones. The odds that your 98 year old grandfather will want to bring someone to the wedding is probably slim but you never know! I’m with @seashells7 I’d just ask your grandfather if there is anyone he would like to bring and if so add them.

    Your grandmother and aunt should be given a plus 1.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @MsGinkgo:  You said it yourself, everyone can bring a date!  Therefore they get +1’s!

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MsGinkgo:  It’s never insulting or rude to offer someone a +1. They will know they are equally welcome with or without a guest.  I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised to hear your grandfather brought a lady friend to your destination wedding.  It’s pretty simple, really.  You’re giving everyone a +1. K.I.S.S. principle.  Everybody means everybody.

     

    Post # 12
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    6273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MsGinkgo:  if you are giving everyone a +1 plus, give everyone a plus one.

    if your grandfather doesn’t have anyone to bring, he will RSVP just for himself.

     

    Post # 13
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    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    ide give everyone a +1, hey he mite find a nice old lady in the grocery store….

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    well you have a year….anything can happen in a year….Just figure in they will all attend with a guest and when the time comes to send out the invites call and ask if they would like to bring anyone since you are about to address their invitations.

    Post # 15
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    460 posts
    Helper bee

    Keep in mind, for the elderly guests, a +1 might also be a care giver if needed. 

    Post # 16
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    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I didn’t vote because it comes down to your budget in the end. If your budget is limited like ours would start giving plus ones to people with SO’s that you know, like, and want to be there. Obviously, if they are married it’s hard not to invite them. In general, go from most serious relationship down to least serious. 

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