Post # 1
we’re giving everyone a plus one – and that’s even those not in a serious relationship, everyone can bring a date.
That said there are a few people I’m not sure how to handle
– my grandfather is a widow and is 98 (99 at the wedding, God willing), do I give him a plus one, somehow that seems weird.
– my grandmother is recently divorced for the 2nd time (and very happy), does she get a plus one, again – seems weird (FYI, my grandfather and his new wife WILL be there)
– my aunt has been in one relationship since her divorce, which recently ended rather badly. I don’t feel AS weird giving her a plus one but if she’s not in a relationship at the time would that be rude? (her 2 sons will be invited and her siblings will also all be invited and presumably in attendance)
Post # 3
I voted for your grandmother and aunt. Give them the opportunity to bring someone if they want. Your grandfather probably isn’t dating at 98.
Post # 4
WHy dont you ask your grandfather if he would like to bring someone to the wedding?
Post # 5
@MsGinkgo: Call and ask if there’s anyone they want to bring. Tell them it can be a friend, a date, whatever. Then, give them a plus one whatever they say, just in case they say no out of being polite. Your grandfather might want to bring a friend just to show you off, or maybe ge knows someone else whose family is gone, or far away, who would like to come to a wedding, and have a nice day out. Maybe your aunt will bring a duck on a leash and you can all talk about your crazy aunt for years to come. It would really quack me up, that’s for sure.
Post # 6
If everyone is getting a plus one just allow them the same courtesy and let them either bring a date or not.
Post # 7
I’d give them all plus ones. The odds that your 98 year old grandfather will want to bring someone to the wedding is probably slim but you never know! I’m with @seashells7 I’d just ask your grandfather if there is anyone he would like to bring and if so add them.
Your grandmother and aunt should be given a plus 1.
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@MsGinkgo: You said it yourself, everyone can bring a date! Therefore they get +1’s!
Post # 10
I should mention as well that this will be a DW wedding (involving at least 1 overnight) for all the mentioned guests. (Grandmother and Aunt from NL and Grandfather from elsewhere in ON and he would likely travel with my Uncle and his wife).
I don’t object to giving anyone a plus one, I just don’t want to come across as rude or insulting to them!
Post # 11
@MsGinkgo: It’s never insulting or rude to offer someone a +1. They will know they are equally welcome with or without a guest. I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised to hear your grandfather brought a lady friend to your destination wedding. It’s pretty simple, really. You’re giving everyone a +1. K.I.S.S. principle. Everybody means everybody.
Post # 12
@MsGinkgo: if you are giving everyone a +1 plus, give everyone a plus one.
if your grandfather doesn’t have anyone to bring, he will RSVP just for himself.
Post # 13
ide give everyone a +1, hey he mite find a nice old lady in the grocery store….
Post # 14
well you have a year….anything can happen in a year….Just figure in they will all attend with a guest and when the time comes to send out the invites call and ask if they would like to bring anyone since you are about to address their invitations.
Post # 15
Keep in mind, for the elderly guests, a +1 might also be a care giver if needed.
Post # 16
I didn’t vote because it comes down to your budget in the end. If your budget is limited like ours would start giving plus ones to people with SO’s that you know, like, and want to be there. Obviously, if they are married it’s hard not to invite them. In general, go from most serious relationship down to least serious.