Post # 1
So, as the title states, I’m a plus sized bride. Granted, my wedding isn’t until December of 2013.. I know that even then, I’m going to be a plus sized bride.
The trouble I’m having? Finding a wedding dress that “I” am comfortable in, in LOVE with and won’t be embarrassed to wear!
See, I’ve always been a heavy female. And now that I’m in my late 30’s (37 to be exact) I don’t see that changing in a year and a half. Now before anyone starts in on the whole, “You just have to eat healthy, have a good diet and exercise.” bit.. Don’t. Please.
I’ve done it all. All the diets (fad and otherwise). All of the exercising. All of the eating healthy. I still eat as healthy as I can due to being a diabetic, but still. I walked that path.. And at most? I’ve lost maybe 35 to 40 pounds. I haven’t seen the scale at less than 200 to 210 pounds in YEARS.. And now? I’m sitting at wearing a size 18 to 20(ish) dress for the wedding.
So, what I’m asking is.. What are some dress style/type suggestions that anyone can give me?
I’d ask Mr. Dragonfly, but, he’s biased (and I love him all the more for it) and will tell me that I’ll be beautiful in anything I wear..
So ladies (and gents!!!).. HELP!!!
Post # 3
Hello, and welcome to the bee (disclaimer-not the welcome bee wagon! 🙂 )
I am a size below you and same here-I have struggled between 190-220 since the birth of my daughter. I got down to 160 and felt really good on my almost 5″7 frame…and I killed myself to do it. As soon as I got back into my bad habits-bam, ten pounds crept on nooo problem.
It was hard for me because I know what I can look like skinnier…and I know I am not going to be there for my wedding in a month n a bit.
For the right dress for you, I would pick a dress that accents the best feature (or the the part of your body you feel most confident about).
If you love your legs, then go with a hi-low. Have a small ribcage but pear shaped…then go for an A-Line that has a bow or crystal detail at your smallest part.
Also, picking your dress also involves being a bit of an illusionist…hiding a few things you don’t like. I hate my arms-so I have a shrug and also a bolero I am going to wear so I feel comfortable (no pics of my bat wings waving about!).
If you would like to post a pic of your silhouette, Im sure some of the bees could help. Also, there are some great threads where plus ladies post pics of themselves in plus dresses, so you can look for your body shape and get some inspiration.
Hope this helps!
Post # 4
@dragonflybride: I agree – go with your best feauture. Most wedding gowns are flattering anyway.
Post # 5
Take a look at the “full figured” boards on here. There are many bees that are at or around your weight and a bunch of them have posted pictures of them in their wedding dresses… so you can get an idea that the perfect dress CAN be found in plus size!!
I was right where you are in terms of stress over finding something beautiful in my size but they have been so helpful in suggesting designers and stores where you can look.
Check out Alfred Angelo (I was able to try on every dress there in my size — 20) and look online for any bridal shops that have plus size samples. They are out there, I promise! Good luck!
Post # 6
David’s bridal has lots of plus size dresses. I found the A-line to be the most flattering, and I’m a similiar size. I called around to different shops and asked if they had plus size samples and how many before going. I haven’t committed to a dress yet, but really liked a Mori Lee one. The corset backs are awesome, because they can handle a moderate change in size. So the the dress should still fit if you become a rabid exerciser or Ben & Jerry becomes your best friend.
Post # 7
a-line dresses are generally universally flattering, but my advice is to try on EVERYTHING you can. you may find that something else looks amazing on you.
i know that both david’s bridal and alfred angelo carry plus size samples. but i agree with burghbound, call around to bridal shops and see if they have plus size samples. it’s what i’ve done. it’s easier to do that, than to show up at a bridal shop and find that they have maybe two dresses that you can actually try on.
you’ll find a dress, and you’ll look amazing. i promise!
Post # 8
Welcome! I’m a street 18-20, and my wedding dress is actually a 20 also. I ended up with one from the Bonny-Unforgettable line that covers my arms. Allure, Sincerity + and a few other lines have truly gorgeous dresses in their women’s lines. Many makers make the dresses in larger sizes, but I found that the ones from the actual Plus lines were just made to fit a curvy woman better–they fit better in the hips, don’t gape under the arms, etc.
I feel gorgeous in my dress and I can’t wait until January!
Post # 9
And yes, to reiterate– call around and see what samples they have in your size/near your size. I wanted straps or sleeves– NOT STRAPLESS– and not a corset-back, even though people insist it’s flattering. I just didn’t want to have to deal with being trussed up like a Thanksgiving turkey at every fitting and for the wedding. If a store carries a line you’re interested in, see what they have from it there to try. And I know it’s awkward, but sometimes you really can get a decent idea of what the dress looks like from one a bit smaller.
I posted some of the dresses I tried on but didn’t choose here just so that some of the plus size bees can see what the dresses look like on someone other than the model.
Post # 10
You could find help by looking at full figured brides on this site. I think A line or empire line could be flattering. I saw a full figured bride in an empire line and that looked great on her. Not overdoing it with accessories could also help. I wish you all the best and happy dress shopping!!!Be positive!!!
Post # 11
I’m plus-sized and I ended up with a ball gown. But A-Line dresses also looked pretty good on me. Feel free to look at my previous posts 🙂
Post # 12
ok i’ll tell u something u r gonna be STUNNING and PERFECT bride in ur dress , my cousin is the same wight she is about 95 kg and she is 159 cm only but she looked great in her wedding gown .. i dont know any designer unfortunatly but i can tell u something go and try alot of gowns tell ur self that u r pretty coz u really are .. and i’ll upload aphoto looks like my cousin’s dress to show u the style which suits her , may be it helps.. congrates hun , dont be so stressed u’ll be best bride ever
Post # 13
I can’t recommend Alfred Angelo or DB for plus size brides enough. I bought my size 22 off the rack at DB and it didn’t need a stitch of alterations. It’s a a-line empire waist, which fits my tatas and doesn’t swallow my smaller waist in the least.
Post # 14
I’m a plus sized bride and I found my dress in Alfred Angelo. My wedding is not until March 2013 and I know I will still be plus size then as well. I have been working out 2 months and I already see improvement in my arms which was one of my problem areas
Post # 15
Mori lee has a plus size line that is stunning called Julietta
I have struggled as well and went from a wedding size 20-22 down to wedding dress size 16 in preparing for my wedding. I ordered my dress a size smaller thinking I would lose the weight and I did but it really added a tremendous amount of stress on me once it got close to the wedding. So get measured and order the size you need as it can alwaysbe taken in. If you have curves like me the lace up hugs you in the right places. Try on many different styles so that you can see what looks good on you
Post # 16
This dress I kept wavering on and would have bought if I had not fallen in love with a different dress first. The dress in this picture was ultimately the most flattering on me and made me look amazing, it was very slimming. Private Label by G – Signature plus gown. I was size 20-22 in this gown