Post # 1
…seriously gives me anxiety.
I’m in a pickle. FI and I have spent the last few weeks debating on whether or not to hire a videographer. We didn’t initially have a budget for this but ever since seeing all of the amazing videos posted by fellow bee’s, I’m totally envious. We were able to find a few different companies who would work with our miniscule budget ($500) so I thought all was well.
Fast forward a few days later and FI tells me that he’s not sure about the video. We’re both “plus size” and he’s just as insecure about his body as I am mine. He told me that he knows he’s not going to look good in the video which will make him not want to share it with anyone. I get this. I don’t think I’ll look good in the video either but I still feel like it’s something that we should have and for $500, I feel like the deal is unbeatable. He disagrees. He thinks that we should just enlist some family members to record the parts that we want (ceremony, first dance, parent dances, toasts, cake cutting… that’s it) and then we can edit it all together (we have the editing software on our macs). I would be fine with this but I just worry that I’ll regret not going with the professional when it’s all said and done.
Did any fellow plus size brides have a videographer? Were you pleasantly surprised with how you looked on film?
Post # 3
I am having a videographer. Do it, you will probably regret it, if you can afford it and don’t. What family member wants to stand at your wedding with a camera?
I’m more anxious about having so many people around me on such a big day (I get anxiety).
Your wedding day you are dressed to the 9’s I’m sure you will look great.
Post # 4
I’m just barely plus sized (size 14-16) but I’m super shy and have a ton of body image issues. I was really nervous about how I’d look in our video, but I am SO glad we had a professional videographer. He did an amazing job, and really put me at ease. He let me see the raw footage before putting together our film, so that he could omit the parts that made me self conscious from the final film. He filmed us getting ready prior to the ceremony as well, but he was really respectful of my wishes, and didn’t include any footage that showed too much skin. I just posted our video teaser in the video section if you want to see it. We just got our full length dvds today as well, and they are even more amazing.
I generally hate how I look on film/in pictures, but once I got into my dress and had my hair and makeup professionally done, I absolutely loved how I looked, and loved how I looked on film.
Post # 5
I understand how you feel and I had some of the same worries. I cringe when I see some pictures or video of me and I was worried I would dislike it so much I wouldn’t want to watch it. What made me change my mind is talking to past brides who cherish their video. Their kids watch it – they call it the mommy and daddy movie – so cute! I also have friends who have lost their mom and they can relive those moments with her and hear her voice. Those things are not replaceable.
We didn’t make room in the budget for this initially and ended up going over budget to get this, but I’m happy we made this decision even though I have yet to see the video. We were able to find an artistic videographer who will make a 25 minute highlight video and give us the raw footage from the ceremony. The highlight video will focus on the “feel” of the day. Images of our location, our details, getting ready, etc. There will be no camera in our faces all day, which we were both nervous about. We know that day will fly by and having a video catch the essence of our day will be great. As time goes by memories fade and the video will help preserve them.
Insecurities are tough, and we all have them. I’ve worked through a lot of my issues with shame and it has been liberating. I don’t think poorly of someone else for being overweight and I love and accept them as they are, AND think they are beautiful people. Yet with myself, I somehow felt I was inferior and not worthy because of my weight. That is an awful way to live and I refuse to do that anymore. There is no room in my life for shame. I am no less valuable of a person because I am fat. It’s just more to love. 🙂
I don’t think you should skip out on this. You two love each other and your friends and families love you too. Your children will love you just as you are, as will your grandchildren. Somehow loving “ourselves” is the toughest. I think you should get the video and agree to celebrate and love it for what it is. Life is too short to sit on the sidelines because we don’t fit the ideal body image we think we should.
Post # 6
I’m a plus sized bride and my hubby is also plus size. We had a videographer and we are SO glad we did! They did an amazing job! I’m not going to say I looked magically thin, because that did NOT happen, however I don’t look horribly fat either and I have our vows and so much more on video now!
Post # 7
I’m hoping to convince FI that the professional video is worth it. He’s all about editing our own though. I guess I just need to keep shoving all of these amazing videos in his face until he gives in! lol
Post # 8
Honestly, I wasn’t thrilled with my video–it was just OK. However, I am so glad that we did it.
I agree with the PP who said no one wants to spend your wedding with a camera. Unless you have a friend/family member who is reallly into it, that is a lot to ask. Hire the pro and let him/her know what your concerns are.
Post # 9
I think Ive been subconciously afraid of doing videography too! Hence maybe my reasoning for putting off or proscratinating in “finding a videographer” ugggh
But you ladies sure have put some fears at ease for me! =)