Post # 1
Ok so sensitive topic but one of my bridesmaid is plus size. Not sure her size cause we never discussed it but I know it’s over size 20. Anyways m big thing is my girls need to be comfortable I’m notpicky with dresses and they are choosing their own styles in same colour from the Bill Levkoff line. We are having a damn hard time getting a dress for my one plus size BM to try on!!!! It is so unfair that we have to only pretend or envision a dress based on the picture online.
We looked into the Alfred Angelo collection since heard there isn’t an extra charge for plus size my concern is then will that colour look similar to bill Levkoff dresses. Like I said I’m not picky but she doesn’t want to look like the odd girl with the different toned dress in a larger size.
Where can we go to try on some plus size dresses????? In Toronto area or even willing to drive to buffalo !!!
Post # 3
I am plus size and was recently a bridesmaid in a wedding. I had to wear a strapless dress and with a large chest it was awful! Definitely look for something with somewhat thick straps. David’s Bridal in Mississauga carries some plus size bridesmaids dresses. Most bridal stores can and will order in plus sizes for an extra fee
Post # 4
Why dont you just go with Alfred Angelo?
It would make more sence to make your BM feel like one of the girls, than the odd ball out. IMO anyway
I think you may have a hard time finding a BM in plus size sample size….normally I think they just try the sample on and order it in correct size. Or hold it up to her.
Post # 5
I’m pretty sure AA does have a plus size fee. I was a bridesmaid a few years ago, and by their measurements was a size 22 in the hip so they wanted me to order that size and pay a premium for it. It was strange because the sample was a 10 and not THAT small on me, so I ordered the 16 because I sure as heck wasn’t paying for extra fabric just to chop it off and be charged again for the pleasure. I can’t remember exactly where the cutoff was for sizing, but between them measuring small and the cutoff being at least at 22, she might get hit with it, unless things have changed in the last couple years.
Post # 6
Another possible solution, depending on what your wedding dream is: let her pick her own dress, period – not necessarily from the particular line.
I have 3 BM and my MOH, and they are vastly different shapes and sizes. It would be difficult to find something that suited them all, and the cost of going to a bridal store for offical “bridesmaid” dresses is prohibitive anyway.
I am giving them the colour swatch, and letting them find a dress that they love, will be comfortable in, and will not break their bank. That way, my bustier MOH can find something to keep the cookies in the jar, while my super-skinny BM can find something to boost her shape! (The other two are sort of in the middle.)
Anyway that’s just another option.
If the dresses must all match, then I guess keep looking for something that will work, and good luck. If she is feeling awkward about her body, what about trying on dresses just the two of you? It might feel more comfortable for her that way.
Post # 7
@chercee: My main concern is for all the girls to feel comfortable and all the girls are actually picking their own style of dress from the Bill Levkoff line. I just picked the colour.
Our main thing is that my Plus size BM can’t try on any of the sample sizes and this frustrastes her since she would like the opportunity to at least try on her dress.
I am not the picky one…lol I wouldn’t mind if the dress she picked was a tad different in shade etc, but since the other girls are going with the Bill Levkoff collection she now feels like the odd ball out.
Such a sensitive situation cause I don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable but at the same time also don’t want her to spend an arm and a leg to find a dress!
I agree we just go on our own when trying on dresses. I don’t want to make a spectacle out of the situation! Urgh
Thanks for responding and your suggestions!
Post # 8
@SapphireSun: eeeek really?! I will do some more digging into that. Someone at a boutique told me that there was no charge….fingers crossed it is true.
It is rather frustrating for her…she feels like she is now a “task” and she hates that. It is also a damn shame that there aren’t samples in more plus size dresses for women to try on!
Thanks for the heads up!!
Post # 9
@Rehema: I don’t think anyone, plus size or not, always needs to try on the actual dress to know how it is going to look on them.I have been a BM a couple of times where my local salon did not carry the sample nor would they bring it in. I just tried on similar styles to get an idea of how it would look.
I am quite sure that by now she knows what styles look best on her. Dresses can have many different embellishments but there are really only a few basic styles- A line, empire, natural waist, sheath etc.
She can try on dresses in her local plus size store to refresh her memory, then order by measurements. It is always best to order for the largest area of the body. The rest can be taken in.
Post # 10
@Rehema: As a plus-size girl myself, I feel your BM’s pain. It is VERY important for us to be able to try on a dress because, even if we know what silhouette looks good on us), the fit varies wildly depending on the dress. How lovely of you not to pooh pooh her concerns like others might. It sounds like she may have to get used to the idea that her dress will be different from the others’. Different doesn’t have to mean bad. Different can mean special.
Also, have you/has she tried any department stores? I was SHOCKED at what I was able to find there. I’m not in Canada, though.
Post # 11
@KelannaDC: Thanks for the reply! I have browsed around some department stores and it is true there are some great options. I am sure there would be more in the USA though. We have an appointment Friday at Davids Bridal. I was told they have a crap load of dresses in all sizes so I am pretty confident we will find someting for her that she can try on and LOVE!
Post # 12
I feel you. I have a tiny bridesmaid, one who’s average size, one who’s short but a big girl (though she’s in the process of losing weight), one who’s a tall big girl, and my MOH who is tall and bigger because she’s so tall (and has lost over 100lbs). Initially, I said, here’s the color and the fabric type, find a dress that looks good and is affordable for you. They wanted more structure, so I decided to go through Dressilyme. They have tons of styles in the fabric that I want, and can make them in any color, and can do custom sizes for $15 extra.
Post # 13
Anything light and flowy, not a bright colour, and sleeves or straps, go to plus size shops and see what looks good.